Just like I don’t know how you feel. I don’t know your exact feelings. I may have similar ones because we’ve gone through a similar situation but they are not identical. So when you come and tell me that you know “exactly how I feel” I get mad. Bloomin’ mad. And I get mad on behalf of others, too. Like when my friend lost her son when he was 11 months old and a friend of hers came up and said “I know how you feel because I lost my dog last year”. Really? Or when a friend of mine lost her twin sister to suicide at the age of 26 and she was told by another friend “I know how you feel because my brother died before I was even born and I never got to meet him.” That is clearly sad, but you didn’t have 26 years with him. She did. You and I may think we know exactly how someone feels when they go through something difficult. We don’t fully. So, when someone is hurting and you have been through a similar circumstance, just love them. Tell them you know they are hurting. Let them know that you are there for them. And if they ask about your story, then tell them. And let them decide if you know exactly what they are going through. But don’t assume you know exactly what they are going through. Because you don’t. I don’t. And quite frankly, all they really need is a hug and lots of prayers.