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Why Do You Do What You Do?

I love the Holy Spirit. He guides, counsels, comforts, and protects. I appreciate the guidance that comes as a gentle nudge to write a much-needed note to a friend who is hurting. I am amazed at the counsel that falls from my lips when I have no earthly idea what to say to a woman in need. I adore the comfort I get when I am hurting and no one on this earth can do the trick. I love knowing that my children are protected within a hedge erected by the One True God. But He also convicts. And dang if I don’t like that. Please don’t misunderstand me. I love the outcome of conviction but am just not a fan of the discomfort that goes along with it. But, it’s necessary. It’s necessary for growth and a changed life. And I want a changed life. I raise this issue of conviction with you because I have been slammed with it on every side in regard to a particular issue in my life. My motives. The why behind what I do. Questions haunting me recently have had to do with the purity, or lack of it, behind why I do things or why I say things or why I write things or why I go to the places I go. Think you get my point. Do I do things I do to get my name out or to see what people think about me or to make sure I’m seen shaking the right hand or hugging the right neck?  Do I want recognition so that my self-esteem and fleshly desires can be unhealthily fed?  Do I comment or speak just to hear myself? Sometimes. Sometimes I do. I want to have pure motives. I want to have an agenda that is solely about building the Kingdom of God. I want to get my desires out of the way long enough so that I can be fully yielded to what I absolutely know God has called me to do. Still starving the flesh. Is anybody hearin’ what I’m sayin’?

25 thoughts on “Why Do You Do What You Do?”

  1. YES! I find myself frequently evaluating why I do what I do. There have been times times when I have felt compelled by the Lord to do something even when it is uncomfortable, and then there have been times when I have continued to do something because I felt that it was expected of me (or there is no one else to do it). More and more, I am finding my righteousness in Christ, not people, but I still have to starve the flesh quite often!

    You said it much better than I could. Thank you!

    ~Andrea

  2. Girl, I’m hearin’ ya! I’ve been there, and I will go there again, I’m sure. I remind myself it’s about making His name great, not mine. But, the beauty in this post is that you are being vulnerable, that you are in relation enough with Him that you hear Him, and that you respond to Him. There is purity in that my friend.

  3. My grandma says that “purity” doesn’t come out until you put in some ole elbow grease and Ajax.

    I wonder if that’s true with spiritual lives too?

    Cindy, because you were vulnerable today.. I was reminded of some elbow greasing that I need to do in my life!!

    Ouch!

  4. Oh yes, I hear you – loud and clear. You’re speaking my language. The problem with me is that I’m learning a new language, the language of love and humility, purity and trust, and it is sometimes harder than learning French. The conjugation of verbs is really important and it gets me everytime, well – not everytime. My mentor has an expression that I love and use often, “if we choose to fail forward the experience hasn’t been wasted.” The enemy wins when we focus on what we haven’t done right or what motives were behind our actions. Conviction is God counting the number of times we get up. Guilt is the enemy reminding us of how many times we’ve fallen.

  5. Oh girl, I hear you. I’ve been busted by the Holy Spirit on the whole motive issue. I can only ask Him to purify my heart and remove selfish ambition.

    But I happen to love it when the Lord corrects me. For some strange reason, it makes me feel very loved and protected. Like the Word says, “Whom God loves, he disciplines” and I guess I take that to heart.

    Thanks for your transparency. LOVE your blog.

    Blessings!

  6. Gosh, I sure struggle with this too. I want to have pure motives for everything I do. But I know sometimes that is NOT the case. Ugh.

    I am constantly reminded of the scripture that says the heart is deceitful. That keeps me aware that even when I think I may have the purest intentions, my heart my think otherwise.

  7. thank you for sharing- i am sure it is hard to let your guard down sometimes, so thank you for doing so. i know where you are coming from here – i spent 29 years trying to make the name of Misti great – i failed (horribly)- so now God is reminding me over ( and over again) it is all for Him – thanks again for pointing me to the one who is the only one who can do anything through us and for us.
    Have a great day!!

  8. seems God never wants to correct my actions, but always addresses the heart that allowed the action/thought to take place.

  9. I hear you for sure!

    Its uncomfortable, but doesn’t it feel good to know that God thought enough of you to convict you. He desires for us to be pure, and I love that He takes the time to sometimes give us a push in the right direction.

    Great reminder!

  10. Right on with today’s Oswald Chambers that I read.

    Just when I start to think it’s my natural giftings that He wants to use, I have to stop and think about the lesser-used, lesser-seen things He’s planted in me.

    If I lean towards those, they tend not to be the things that call any attention to me at all….then purity of heart is no longer an issue…

    I’ve spent over two years on the ’emptying me of me’. It’s left me not knowing who I am at all, but more secure than ever….’cause that’s the way y’know, that He works best…

    **

    The Brave Friendship of God

    :
    He took the twelve aside . . . —Luke 18:31

    Oh, the bravery of God in trusting us! Do you say, “But He has been unwise to choose me, because there is nothing good in me and I have no value”? That is exactly why He chose you. As long as you think that you are of value to Him He cannot choose you, because you have purposes of your own to serve. But if you will allow Him to take you to the end of your own self-sufficiency, then He can choose you to go with Him “to Jerusalem” ( Luke 18:31 ). And that will mean the fulfillment of purposes which He does not discuss with you.

    We tend to say that because a person has natural ability, he will make a good Christian. It is not a matter of our equipment, but a matter of our poverty; not of what we bring with us, but of what God puts into us; not a matter of natural virtues, of strength of character, of knowledge, or of experience— all of that is of no avail in this concern. The only thing of value is being taken into the compelling purpose of God and being made His friends (see 1 Corinthians 1:26-31 ).

    God’s friendship is with people who know their poverty. He can accomplish nothing with the person who thinks that he is of use to God. As Christians we are not here for our own purpose at all— we are here for the purpose of God, and the two are not the same. We do not know what God’s compelling purpose is, but whatever happens, we must maintain our relationship with Him. We must never allow anything to damage our relationship with God, but if something does damage it, we must take the time to make it right again. The most important aspect of Christianity is not the work we do, but the relationship we maintain and the surrounding influence and qualities produced by that relationship. That is all God asks us to give our attention to, and it is the one thing that is continually under attack.

  11. The filter I try to use is “would I still do this if no one would know, or see, or comment on what I did or said.”

    I think though that it’s impossible to know how pure our motives are all the time, but good to keep them in check. I think on the Day of Judgment we will ALL be surprised at what lasted, and what was burned away. The actions or words we thought so praiseworthy – gone. The things we completely forgot about and never gave a second thought – a crown.

    I think God will be doing a lot of burning away with me…..

  12. Love the Spirit of God. Love how He speaks to me and how it is always consistent with His word. Love it love it love it.

    Also love that He is the same yesterday as it He is today. He was speaking to Cain before Cain murdered His brother. The Spirit of God is always checking our hearts and comparing it to our Father’s.

    That is a prayer that I beg God to do. Keep constantly checking and show me where my heart has gone wrong.

    Like you say, Cindy, it is all about starving the flesh. Or as I like to graphically describe it, my spirit (born of God) dragging around the flesh with my hand tightly squeezed around the windpipe. I can only keep the flesh alive because I need it to do God’s will while I am on earth. I feel to absolutely destroy my flesh (not eating right, not exercising, abusing whatever, driving offensively, etc.) is going against the will of God.

  13. Thank you for your vulnerability! I think I might just print this post to refer back to it for myself. Thanks for reminding me that I have an audience of One and have only One to impress.

  14. loud and clear. in fact. get out of my head.

    this is probably one of my biggest struggles. mostly because i seek the approval of men. well…i dont think i immediately set out for that…but once the approval or accolades start coming in, it feeds me. and its not that mans approval is wrong – its my perspective and dependence on it. my focus is all wrong.

    ahhh…this is a hard one.

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