Motherhood

Who Will Your Child Be As An Adult?

I’d like to thank BooMama for leading me to a particular Wall Street Journal article recently.  It really opened my eyes about parenting, about what I am doing to ensure that my sons will be successful adults. While I do not nor will ever think I am the parent of all parents, I do feel that some of the things my husband and I have done with our boys will help them in the long haul. Try these with your children…
1.  Teach them to love Jesus with all of their heart, soul, mind and strength. 2.  Teach your child how to handle criticism.  If all they ever receive is praise, they will not be prepared for the real world. 3.  Reject entitlement.  Too many kids think that they are entitled to things.  Teach them to earn things instead. 4.  Teach them to earn more than they make when they have a job.  Having a strong work ethic will get them everywhere. 5.  Teach them to honor commitment and not to give up when failure enters the picture.  Your best way to teach this is by your example. 6.  Teach them humility.  When a child thinks he/she is far better than others, it’s highly unattractive and often repels friends. 7.  Don’t permit dishonesty.  This is absolutely unacceptable in our family.  Period. 8.  Don’t make any subject off-limits.  If they want to talk about something you are not comfortable with, do it anyway.  If they don’t talk to you, they’ll talk to someone. 9.  Teach them to be a respecter of persons. My boys know that disrespect basically means that they don’t think that person is important. 10.  Don’t be afraid to tell them you don’t know something.  While you may be the parent, you don’t have all the answers.
If you’d like to read the article, check it out here. Would any of you parents like to add anything to my list?

12 thoughts on “Who Will Your Child Be As An Adult?”

  1. Thanks for the list and the link… If you want to know why I’m commenting on your blog so early, it’s because your hsuband has us meeting for a breakfast meeting at 6:30 a.m. Hello, Hello that’s an early meeting… BTW- I’m not complaining! 🙂

  2. I like the smiley face behind Scott’s “complaint.”

    Add to list? Yes. Clean up after yourselves. And, if you spit half the toothepaste of your mouth into the sink, rinse the sink before it dries in there.

    I’m gonna print this list out (your list) and put it on my bathroom mirror. If we can teach them #1, all of the other things will be easier.

  3. I kind of consider myself a rock star of a mom. In fact I’m a little surprised that you didnt hit me up for a cameo appearance on this topic. (kidding of course) But your blog and that article has exposed some weak areas in our home. Thank you. I’m going to be chewing on that for a while.

    My biggest suggestion is to talk openly with your kids about male/female interaction from an early age. “Son, thank you for telling me I look pretty. Girls like being told that.” or to a daughter, “Honey, please dont attack Daddy with your problems the minute he gets home from work. Men appreciate a chance to unwind before hearing about our challenges.”

  4. This is an awesome list! I love the entitlement one. I see so many problems in America today because of that one (as opposed to some other cultures around the world that I have lived in.) Thanks for sharing these, I might just have to copy them down! 🙂

  5. Greetings,

    I just wanted to thank you for your honestly in the devotion you wrote for the cafe. I too have not had a baby yet, and we have been trying for over three years, and have been married five years. What am I supposed to sway when a complete stranger at church asks me why I have not had kids yet? He said he has been observing us and was wondering when it was going to happen. What? I just told him thanks for the concern. It is good for me to see that I am not the only one going through this.

    In His Arms,

    ~Jessica Smith

  6. I love that list. I have already printed it off so I can ponder it some more and critique where we are as a family. I know we do many things well, and some, not so much.

  7. I read the same article as well and had the same feelings. I don’t think I have anything to add to the list – although I am not sure where putting your kids on a pedestal would fit in. We don’t want to see them hurt but, sometimes those are the best learning times.

  8. Biggest issue in our house is the entitlement one. We are working on it. There have been some shocked faces from spoiled little ones lately.

  9. This is funny! I’ve been commenting about parenting on every blog I’ve read this morning. OK, here’s a non-alien view for ya:
    Teach your children to be lamps not mirrors. That way when they’re old enough to notice the flaws in you, they’ll look to the source of the light, not the reflection.

  10. Great list! Mike and I have been discussing things like this that we want to put into action with our children. One thing that we want to do (goes along the lines of entitlement) is bring something home for just one of the children at a time. A lot of parents feel that if they get one child something, then they have to get the other child something. We want to teach our children to rejoice with the other child in their joy! To be happy for them when they receive something special and not bitter that they didn’t get something.

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