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What My Mother Knows

When I was a teenager, I didn’t think my mom knew very much. I knew that she understood things that I didn’t like history and science and even knew the meanings of words that were just making their way to my lips. But that was about it, really. Things about real life? That was MY area of expertise. After all, I was 17, thank you so kindly. Then I became a wife and later, a mother. It is amazing how smart she became and still is to this day. I wish I had realized it sooner. I mean, I really wish that I had wanted to sit down with her and ask her things about things that I didn’t know but thought I knew when I was fresh out of high school. But I didn’t. So I ask her now. Not everyday but I ask when I am curious. And want to learn. Because she’s lived on this earth a whole heckuva lot longer than I have and has raised three children and stayed married for 30 years to my dad til “death did them part” and taught children in the public school system for 34 years and has been faithful to be a part of her church since before I was born and… She really knows a lot, y’all. The older I get the more I learn just how much more I need to learn. Anyone? I see that hand.

19 thoughts on “What My Mother Knows”

  1. Very intersting perspective! I just spent the w/end w/ some family at a reunion. I discovered that my favorite part was to sit and listen to the older ladies (60+yrs) talk w/ me about their lives. At one point, I felt very strongly that I needed to pay attention to my aunt’s world view. She shared about schooling choices with her 3 children and how they were all made on an individual basis. She went on to talk about “tough times” financially. We had been in very similar situations yet we have almost 30 yrs age difference. My generation is not as smart as we think…as far as doing “new” things or being innovative. We just use new terms to continue to describe the ideas that have always worked. I love being with someone older.

  2. I think this is true with more than just Moms. I’ve seen so many mistakes made in business, home life, church and relationships that could have been avoided if wisdom from an experienced person would have been applied. However, when we are young we do think that there is nothing we can’t do or figure out and that exercise of figuring it out gives us experience. What really hurts is when others are affected by our lack of wanting wisdom or help. Dirk

  3. Sometimes knowing that learning is a life-long process is frustrating but for the most part, it’s something I look forward to.

  4. I can certainly attest to this. My mother and my grandmother both make much more “sense” to me than they did when I was growing up.

  5. Knowing everything as a teen is part of our development. The world is smaller, simpler, and more black and white… and so we do know everything. I love that about teens. The world is just beginning to show it’s complexity.

    But then the world expands and we discover a ton we do not know. And as we learn more we see even more clearly how much more we have to learn.

    [raises hand] I with you: I’ve got a ton to learn, and even more to implement.

    ~Luke

  6. I know nothing, nothing! I have learned that the older I get the less the truth to which I held so true is accurate. I have learned to listen and stop talking, to hear what people are trying to teach me and understand that I need to crawl before I can leap.

  7. I was so frustrated when I realized my mom was always right and seemed to know when I didn’t! Now…I love it ~ it’s motherly wisdom that I cherish. My kids may think the same way about me someday. πŸ™‚ Oh, but yes, I have so much more to learn!

  8. I never trusted and even saw my mom’s wisdom until she was given her terminal cancer diagnosis on my 40th birthday.

    I then saw her beauty

    Thankfully I still have her now and reaping the lessons that I needed to learn that only she could teach….

  9. my father in law just said to me yesterday, of himself…

    “the older i get, the more i realize i dont know”

    i thought, wow! that just came from the mouth of a man a respect greatly. a man who i have run to for counsel and wisdom on more occasions than i can count. a man, that after making that statement, i respect all the more. we should never be afraid to learn or admit that we need others to guide us. but we are. well. i am.

    dont know how this fits in here. i just had a little brain overflow all over your post.

    yay.

  10. My freshman year of college, I had to call my mom for advice regarding something I thought I KNEW how to do: make hard-boiled eggs.

    Talk about humbling…

  11. And your mom can be very proud of this princess she has!

    We all learn at different ages and different stages how to appreciate the gift God gave us, our mothers … I encourage you, if your mother is still here on earth, spend time with her, learn from her, love her and cherish the time you have with her … if she’s gone, I pray your sweet memories bring you peace and comfort as you think of her now.

    Just had to leave you a note on this one, sweet girl!
    Love,
    Your other mother …

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