Mentoring

The Waiting Room

I’ve been reading the Bible for a long time now. My particular version of choice has typically been the New International Version (NIV). And in reading this version for most of my adult life, I’ve never come across the word longsuffering. Oh, it’s all over the King James Version (KJV), but not the NIV. Why? My guess is that it just doesn’t sound good. I mean it’s basically saying that you are going to suffer and that your suffering is going to last a long time. Who wants to hear that? Not me. In order to understand the Bible more clearly, I often search for the original text meanings. Even though our Bibles are translated in English, they were not written it in originally (Old Testament in Hebrew; New Testament in Greek). So, I went to my trusty website to find what the word longsuffering meant. I found the following definition: 1) patience, endurance, constancy, steadfastness, perseverance, forbearance, longsuffering, slowness in avenging wrongs After being married about 18 months, my husband and I decided that we wanted to have a child. Once we no longer prevented a baby’s conception, we figured that we’d be pregnant in no time. That was in 1994. Our first son was not born until 1999. Talk about longsuffering. Those years of waiting, negative pregnancy tests, watching my girlfriends having their 1st, 2nd and 3rd children when I could not even get pregnant with one child were excruciating. It was a great desire in my heart to be a mom. Why did God make me wait so long? Better yet, why don’t some women ever get to become a mom? During those arduous years, I didn’t know why I had to wait. However, since his arrival nearly 9 years ago, God has revealed to me over and over again that He is sovereign and I am not. Nuff said. I believe that God developed some character traits in me during that season of life that otherwise might not have been developed. My intimacy with God is deeper than ever because He truly became everything to me. He knew every thought and feeling I had during this painful time. I wasn’t afraid to be real with Him and cast all of the hurts I had onto him. After all, the Bible says in 1 Peter 5 to “cast all your anxiety on him because he cares for you.” I did just that. You can, too. Exercising patience is not a lot of fun. I am fairly certain that I have never heard anyone say, “Man, I am so excited about what God is going to show me and how I’m going to change during this time of waiting. Woo hoo!”  No, not so much. But, as I’ve talked with countless people over the years after their seasons of waiting, every single person has said that he/she wouldn’t trade the life lessons learned for the comfortable life they had before. You see, it’s in those days, months and years of waiting where we start to look a lot more like Christ. A good friend of mine wrote one time “His lessons always contain a lasting sweetness when they are properly learned.” King David wrote in Psalm 139, “Search me, O God, and know my heart; test me and know my anxious thoughts.” It’s quite a bold prayer to take before God. But trust me when I say that He will deliver. He will perform the most successful heart surgery, or even a transplant, that’s ever been accomplished. Trust His steady hand. Are you in a waiting room? What is it that God wants to teach you? Are there areas of your life that God wants to make new?

5 thoughts on “The Waiting Room”

  1. You’re right. Some of the greatest lessons I’ve learned about surrendering to God have come in the form of waiting. Moses, dude, he waited 40 years before he went back to Egypt. Poor Joseph was in prison for how long before they remembered him? Jesus himself was 30 before God released him. Waiting, yeah, the waiting room of God can come complete with elevator music, but if you listen carefully, it’s teaching you something!
    Thanks Cindy!!

  2. Cindy – I just found your blog and I was so blessed! “Longsuffering” and “stronghold” are two of my least favorite words in the current Christian language. I am, unfortunately (or maybe fortunately) too familiar with both! But, just as Natalie pointed out, God always delivers…even if you have to wait for 40 years.

    Thank you for your blog! You are inspiring!

  3. Cindy.. You said it! The waiting is hard yet it is the time we grow. I am in a HUGE season of waiting and daily I ask why yet I am learning why.. I would have never been the woman I am today without the waiting. Thank you for sharing! Love ya girl

  4. Nat – I figured you’d been in the waiting room some 🙂 After all, you’ve published a book.
    Robyn – Glad you commented. Looking forward to meeting you at the December Event!
    Wendy – You’re a sweetie. Love you.

  5. Cindy,
    I found your blog through reading Keri’s. I have found myself addicted to checking hers and yours daily. I don’t know why, but today I felt drawn to click on the “mentoring” tab and I am so glad that I did. I had never read The Waiting Room” post before. I said just earlier this week that sometimes when you least expect it, you hear something that you’ve needed to hear and that’s exactly what has happened to me today.
    What I’m about to say will sound funny, but bear with me. My only alone time at home is in the shower – you have 2 boys, I know you know what I mean. So while I’m showering, I usually think about the prayers that I said the night before, and reflect on how to help myself achieve what I’ve prayed for and often wonder if I’ve prayed “right.” So anyway, this morning, I’m thinking about maybe the fact that our home building situation is so up in the air is one of the reasons we’re STILL not pregnant after trying for well over a year – but still wondering why God isn’t answering me, what I’m not doing that He’s waiting for me to do, wondering what Keri or you would tell me to do…get where I’m going with this? So, here I am reading your blog and voila!! You’ve given me guidance and don’t even know it. I thank you for that. Thank you for writing, sharing and being the inspiration that you are.

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