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The Final Stage of Grief

I cannot tell a lie. I am in awe of Beth Moore.  But not because she can do amazing things with her hair in that humid Texas city she calls home.  No, no.  Although impressive, that’s not what I am referring to.  I’m merely talking about her ability to write something as if she’s been in the innermost parts of my brain. No wonder my head always itches. In her book The Beloved Disciple she writes,
As a child bearing the name of Christ, if a part of you has died, in time it was meant to produce many seeds.  Has it?  Have we lived long enough and cooperated thoroughly enough to see tender shoots come forth from the barren ground?  We hear so much talk about the phases of grief: the shock, the anger, often depression, then finally, acceptance…if we’re lucky.  We’re led to believe that acceptance of death is the final stage of grief, but if we’re in Christ, the final stage has not come until we’ve allowed God to bring forth resurrection life and many seeds from the kernel of wheat that fell to the ground.  Yes, we have come to acceptance but not just acceptance of the death.  Acceptance of the resurrection life.  Don’t stop until you experience it.  Though it tarry, it shall come!
But we have to let it. We can not sit idly by and watch the trying circumstances and heartaches of life keep us stranded on the sidelines.  We must not act as if we’re all washed up and that God cannot use us again after such grievous sin once entangled us.  We should not allow the enemy of our souls steal from us an abundant life that is very readily ours. We’ve all experienced death in some form or fashion. Tell me.  Has the death that took part of your heart away produced any fruit? I’ll go first. After experiencing the most devastating blow that a wife can imagine, by the grace of God I have been able to allow the once dead heart in my chest to begin beating again.  And it’s passionate about helping others realize that they, too, can be better than new. Your turn.  

11 thoughts on “The Final Stage of Grief”

  1. I agree…I am also in awe of Beth Moore….the thots and understanding of that woman are just amazing. My heart hasn’t started beating yet. I would really like it to cause I’m really tired of living this way…..it’s exhausting.

  2. my grief mountain has been HUGE over the last few years but my lord has TRULY given me the grace to make it. he’s allowed me to use my disability to encourage ohers, he’s used my son’s prodigal ways to reach out to other moms greiving the loss of a dream, he’s shown me that he’s all i need and that my dependance on Him, though painful, is a blessing. Press into Him, he is ready to carry your burden…..

  3. Cindy, I think this is also true for the death of our agendas, our selves when we give our hearts and lives to Christ. And we should all be dying daily, right? And that newness will be HIS life lived in us. Just awesome! 🙂

  4. The death of dreams and visions of how you’ve imagined your life to be consequently requiring a surrender so that He can resurrect, not your creation but His. Death to self so that He can live in us and through us to love when love is the toughest.

  5. Acceptance and anger are still battling. Some days one is ahead of the other. Sometimes the anger is a comfort. How weird, huh?

    My husband says my own pride is in the way of God.

  6. Every time I don’t get my way…
    Every time my plans are interrupted…
    Every time I think “Not fair!”…
    Every time I weep at being misunderstood…
    Every time I hurt…
    Every time I relinquish my idea of how it should be…
    Every time I say “I’m sorry”…
    Every time I forgive while still aching…
    Every time I think it’s too hard, but continue on…
    Every time I choose to praise Him in the midst of pain…
    More of me dies.
    And more of Him bursts forth.

  7. Get out…NO way…I’m in the middle (AGAIN) of The Beloved Disciple..and just yesterday UNDERLINED this EXACT part…I love when He does that…brings it up over and over again UNTIL I get it…
    wow….
    death into life…It’s been in dying to MY agenda and control issues that I’ve opened doors and windows…it took letting go of soooo many things….and coming face to face with all of it…

    whew…

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