My sweet, soon-to-be-a-real-life-friend, Theresa, asked about dealing with stepchildren. She wanted to know how much say I have in my stepson’s life and if it’s only when he’s here or when he’s with his mom. My situation as a stepmother is different than most because I don’t see him often. We’d love to see him more but with an 8-hour drive and school schedules separating us, it’s a little difficult. And did I mention the price of gas? That’s highway robbery, I tell you. Highway robbery. Chris and I are very unified with my stepson’s mother. We wholeheartedly believe in her and think she’s doing a fabulous job. We haven’t felt the need to voice any concerns. Not only is his mom wonderful, but he has Grandma, Paw Paw and Ma’am who pour into his precious, little life, too. He is one blessed boy. But, he’s still a boy. Like when he decides to start throwing things down the staircase or decides that a t-shirt will do a mighty fine job as a strangling device on his little brother. On occasion he has stretched the truth so his dad has been really working with him on being a man of his word and telling what really happened. We use time outs and privileges are removed when he misbehaves. That works on him real fast 🙂 I enjoy my stepson and do “mother” him when he’s here. I prepare his meals, wash his clothes, fix his boo-boos and hug him when he’s missing his momma. While I am in a motherly role in his life, I am not his mother. I respect her presence in his life and as I mentioned above, feel she is doing a splendid job. A splendid job indeed. I know that many of you have far better advice to give on this subject that I do so please feel free to give your input in the comments below. But I’ll give my two cents anyway. Cuz I do that sort of thing. Stepparents, be a positive, encouraging person in your stepchild’s life. Realize that you’re going to have to earn their respect. And then love them to pieces.