So I Wrote A Book

I did, I did. Had to. After the ordeal that Chris and I endured, how in the world could I keep God’s goodness all to myself? Couldn’t call myself an exhorter if I did that, now could I? One part of our story that I haven’t shared with you yet is how God spoke very profoundly to me one Sunday morning in March, 2002, in a church in San Antonio, Texas. The service was nearing its end and then a young girl stood up to read the Word. Before her lips even moved, my mascara was streaming down my peaches ‘n cream, don’t hate me because I never had acne complexion. It’s true. I never did have acne. She began to read and what led her to Habakkuk 2:3 that morning, for the life of me, I’ll never know. She read:

For the revelation awaits an appointed time; it speaks of the end and will not prove false. Though it linger, wait for it; it will certainly come and will not delay.

Actually, I take that back. I do know. The hand of God led her. The verse above may not explain anything to you but next to my mother’s pastor speaking what he did, this encounter absolutely changed my outlook. This verse is my lifeline. I know what it means now and I certainly knew what it meant six years ago. Cindy’s translation?
God, if we’d surrender and let Him, was going to redeem our marriage and then use this tumultuous situation to not only bring glory to Himself but to also bring hope to the hopeless and life to those who think they’re dead.
I’m pretty sure He’s doing that now. So, while I don’t have the details nailed down, I know God is calling Chris and me to do something with the book via the Internet. I know there are many who could benefit from our journey. I used to think that it would only help the woman who has found herself in my position. Not anymore. After posting our story in December, I realized just how many people can be blessed. People with great marriages walk away praising God and being thankful that this isn’t their plight. Men who are in bondage to pornography are seeing the seriousness of this moral epidemic that is consuming our world and are getting help. And people in general who might be doubting if God can do miracles…well, they read our story and have been given a faith transplant. No matter the circumstance, people are seeing just how amazing and great is our God. More details to come…

24 thoughts on “So I Wrote A Book”

  1. Cindy,
    Ever since I found your blog and read your story I have been praying the Lord would lead you to some sort of ministry via the internet with your story. I know the Lord has big plans for you both in this arena. I have sensed that from our first correspondence. I got chills when I read your post about the girl standing up reading Hab 2:3. That verse is one I clung to for years. I know the Lord is going to take what satan meant for destruction and bring healing, hope, and help to many more than you and Chris could have ever imagined!

  2. Cindy – I am looking forward to reading your book 🙂 A good friend of mine (and a ministers wife too) wrote a book on infedelity as well. It is amazing how many people she has met since that have confessed their sins to her. She now counsels couples and individuals. I would love to send you a copy of her book, if you would like.

  3. I’m so proud of you! 🙂

    (Insider Tip: the Book of Habakkuk is going to get some long-overdue props after the Warrior series concludes…)

  4. “You Never Let Go”- do the lyrics of that song ring clear??

    Did you get it published yet? When do we get to buy our copy?!

  5. cindy…(1) how difficult was it for you and chris to trust the discipline and counseling chris was receiving from his mentors, friends, and the church?

    and (2) how has this changed both of you in terms of speaking like-truth into others’ lives when you see them pursuing sin instead of god?

    i guess, do you feel a greater burden to let others know they cannot pursue one without respect to the other?

    you can tell me to wait for the book if you want…that’s cool.

  6. It was so good to see you at church yesterday! That verse speaks to me today, too. Thanks for sharing.

  7. Wow…that is awesome! You go girl! Your story is powerful and has already helped so many. I know whatever God has in store for you now will do the same!

  8. Hi Cindy,
    I have been reading your blog for awhile and have not commented yet. (not sure why) Anyway….you have truly been a blessing through your writings on your blog and I really look forward to reading your book.

    I have only met you one time (at Christmas back in lifekids when Chris brought my husband and I through to meet you, and for some reason I couldn’t stop being teary), 🙂 but before that, you were gracious enough to take time to talk with me on the phone about what my husband and I were going through. (this was sometime in ’06) We were going through a struggle something like yours and Chris’ and you were sooooo very encouraging and spoke life into a situation where I was feeling despair!

    You referred us to Sean, and we saw him for awhile and it was very helpful!!

    God has done great things in both of us and our marriage! (always one day at a time though) My husband has really had a burden to minister to men/young men, and it has been exciting to watch God take this sin from our lives and replace it with purpose and passion.

    I look forward to more of what He has in store for us.

    Thank you for allowing God to work through you and Chris’ lives, to bring about hope in others!!

    Hopefully one day we will get to visit again ….this time with me crying!! : )


  9. (correction) Hopefully one day we will get to visit again….this time withOUT me crying!! 🙂


  10. You are so right about your story being able to reach way beyond just the people that are walking in your shoes. It’s amazing how God can use us in situations we would have never guessed if we allow Him.

  11. Even as a single woman, I would still read it! You’re such a gifted writer and you share from such a place of humility and love.

  12. Cindy I am so excited for you and anxious to read. looking forward for more details! oh..I’m with Tresesa on the sighed copy 😉

  13. I could use your help. I am trying to survey as many women as possible to find out what ten struggles they face as a Christian woman. If you have a few minutes, I would love your input on my blog in regards to the ten struggles that Christian women face. Thank you!

    Please pass this on to your friends as well.

  14. I’ve commented before that my husband and I have a eerily similar story to you and your husband. By the amazing grace of God and a lot of hard work and tears, we are still here.

    Let me know if there is anything us out here in the blogworld can do to help you in your calling.

    Stay strong; don’t back down; be true to the call God has placed on you and your family. It will cost so much (even in the future) but it will be worth it all.

    You are helping so many people.

  15. I’ve been waiting patiently…You’re so precious to me!!!
    Don’t know what I’d do without you…and thank God He brought you through the tough stuff! It’s so beautiful and sweet to see where you are now!!! It is because of people like you that I stand in awe of God, even when He seems so distant. Love you! Love you! Love you!

  16. Cindy,
    You and your husband are very courageous people. Thank you for sharing your story and letting God use it to heal and help others.

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