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Shut Up And Pray

I’m gonna let you in on a little secret. Praying works so much better than nagging. I don’t know if you have ever had a situation with someone that concerned you, annoyed you or frustrated you, but I have.  Years ago prior to my husband’s confession, I had a lot of days like that. I picked up a book by Stormie Omartian called The Power of a Praying Wife well over ten years ago and let me tell you, it has not disappointed.  I have prayed those prayers over my husband many times over.  The words on the pages are underlined and highlighted.  And the pages?  They are flat worn out. And it is not only transforming him…it’s transforming me. There are times to address things with our spouses and times to just, well, for lack of better words… Shut up and pray.

17 thoughts on “Shut Up And Pray”

  1. So true. I was frustrated with mine several days ago. I decided to pray for him instead of address anything. I woke up to a different man….or a different me.

    Good stuff.

  2. This is absolutely the truth. Unfortunately I didn’t learn it until becoming a Christian which was pretty recent. I have the book and love it. I wish I had know this the first 9 years of marriage but better late than never. Thank you for sharing this with everyone.

  3. Picked up the same book. I actually “cried” a couple of the prayers. Literally. Almost yelling. On my knees. Because part of me was angry I had to pray it through, instead of making it happen! Like I could do that.

    Fortunately, God already knew how I felt, and let me get through those first few prayers – as ugly as it was. And gradually I saw, first, a change in me…then a change in him. The Holy Spirit doesn’t need my “help.” One of the toughest lessons I’ve learned. God broke me in a sweet, gentle way. I’m so thankful.

    So, YES…I agree. Just shut up. Take it to God.

  4. I LOVE this book. I picked it up many years ago when it first came out and I read it every couple years. I take one chapter (issue) at a time and pray it over my husband (but it usually applies to me more).
    We were on the verge of a complete marriage breakdown and out of frustration and emptiness I read it again. I didn’t tell him I was reading it but just left it with God. Honestly, I thought it wouldn’t make a difference. WOW, It’s amazing the changes we both have because of prayer. We are happier and closer than we’ve been since before we got married!

    Prayer!!!! WOW! Thanks to this book for helping me pray with direction and of course to God who made the changes in our hearts!

  5. I totally agree and by the way, you’re reading my mail, aren’t you? For years, I griped, yelled, nagged, belittled, complained, griped, yelled, nagged…..well, you get the picture. I had a wonderful mentor who knew our story and with great Godly wisdom told me that I was a stumbling block and was preventing the HOLY SPIRIT from working in my hubby’s life and assured me if I really wanted to wield some power it would be best if I kept my mouth shut and directed that energy towards prayer! I truly believe that was the beginning of me growing as a prayer warrior/intercessor. Thanks Elizabeth for your Godly wisdom, discernment and counsel. I will be forever grateful!!
    P.S. The above formula worked infinitely more than I ever could have hoped or imagined and today my husband is a wonderful Godly husband and father. GOD is FAITHFUL AND TRUE!!!

  6. yes agree! God has so many ways of teaching us his words. in every situation in life we have to find out what God says about it.

  7. Ugh. I don’t want to disagree but I have to…because I did shut up and pray, and I never held my loved one accountable.

    I’ve had to learn how to seek God and speak up. Not nagging. Just tellin’ the truth, in love. Setting boundaries and then upholding them…with consequences.

    Again, not nagging. But it’s not just praying either.

  8. Yvonne, I hear you. My husband has never been held accountable. I am wife #4 and I can tell you, he brings heavy baggage… so do I. He is my second marriage. Anyway, accountability is key. I didn’t know what to do in the beginning of our marriage. I just prayed and we fought. It was a nightmare. After four horrible months of marriage, he hit me. That’s when I learned boundaries are necessary. I began reading Stormie’s book while we were separated. That was nine months ago, I still read it every-other-month. God is amazing. My husband AND I have been transformed and still changing.
    It’s still hard, sometimes unbearable, but I have learned to draw the lines. Holy Spirit has taught me to feel when it’s time to speak and when it’s time to pray.
    My husband is a new man, a new creation, and his desire is to please our Lord.
    BTW… I just bought Power of a Praying Parent, my beautiful son just turned 7. I can’t wait to watch him grow in the God. 🙂

  9. There are days when I wanna yell at God for the seasons our marriage faces! But when I read this book I feel better. I realize that there is role I play in our life together as well. It is not all about me. So my nagging comes to a halt and I see the bigger picture. Stormie’s book has taught me that He already knows the issues we face.

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