We’ve talked about statistics, scope and who is affected by the pornography epidemic. Today, we’re going to excavate way below the surface issues and if you have the stomach for it, expose what might be at the root. Insecurity. I am not a psychologist, therapist, or licensed counselor. I am, however, one who is walking the fragile road to freedom from a pornography addiction. On my journey, I have had the pleasure and at times, the curse, of talking with hundreds of guys/couples about their struggle with intimacy, sex, and pornography. While we are all different and our stories vary considerably, I have found something that is staggeringly consistent in all of these conversations and in my own life…. We are terrified of the reality that we don’t measure up. What if I don’t have what it takes? What if she doesn’t respect me? Am I beautiful enough for him? Does he still find me attractive? Am I a failure as a husband? Leader? Father? While these fears are often below the surface, they have tremendous power to drive us to seek validation from anything possible…even if the validation is a counterfeit. Pornography makes us, in a very temporary and superficial way, feel validated sexually. As many of us know, however, the guilt that sets in after the fact leaves us more empty and insecure than we were before. So what do we do? Trust. Trust what God says about you. He loves you just the way you are. He hates to see you burdened by the weight of your sin and it grieves Him. But His arms are open wide ready to shower you with love and forgiveness. Once we begin truly walking in our trust of God and what he says about us, then we are set free to be honest with our spouses without insecurity because we know who we are in Christ. Over time that deep authenticity and trust will give birth to and ignite REAL intimacy…the way God intended it to be. Remember, trust ignites intimacy. Who then needs a counterfeit when you are enveloped by the real thing? Thoughts?