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Pride vs. Humility #3

How about this: Proud, unbroken people have a hard time saying, “I was wrong; will you forgive me?” Humble, broken people are quick to admit failure and to seek forgiveness. Thoughts?

15 thoughts on “Pride vs. Humility #3”

  1. Pride is easy because you don’t say “I was wrong” or ask for forgiveness. Humility is difficult, confusing and frightening. What if you admit failure and they laugh? What if you seek forgiveness, and they scorn?

  2. when i’m being proud i take constructive criiticism as a personal attack…thus i don’t learn!

    when i’m humble…thats when I learn, change and grow.

  3. slowly, but surely, i am learning the gulf of a difference between “i am sorry” and, “will you forgive me?”

  4. I really wanted to comment about #2, feeling overwhelmed at our spiritual short-comings. I feel anxious and often lie awake at night fearful about how far back slidden my husband and I have become. Our church is spiritually dead and has been for years. Guilt and anxiety..thats how I sum up my spiritual life right now. humble enough? thanks for your honesty on the blog..wow. you are a strong woman.

  5. When my wife and I are ‘disagreeing’ I can immediately tell if I am humble or not by whether or not I am willing to see how I messed up. It can be very PAINFUL!

  6. i am so bad at admitting i was wrong, even when it is completely obvious to everyone involved…usually my wife and i. that is something i really need to work on. thanks cindy

  7. Yikes! Saying I’m sorry is so hard! But it is something that we must all do at some point in our lives. We may hate it but remembering Jesus’s broken body on the cross and it makes it a little easier.

    Admitting we are wrong is the first step towards healing.

    Thanks for doing this….it’s been thought provoking!

  8. So much to write…so little time…Cindy, I find that people in general do NOT want to ask for forgiveness when they are wrong and try to find a way to convince themselves that they do not need to. I just do not get this! Why would you rather try to be right when you will always be wrong? I have never had someone ask me personally for forgiveness without being prompted for MAJOR wrongs…how sad! We ALL just need to be better at this. Thank you Cindy!

  9. I seem to be good at the humble, broken part. What is difficult for me is being on the receiving end of the proud person who focuses on my faults. I am grateful that my heavenly Father loves me regardless of my faults, since even my best efforts are “as filthy rags”. Sometimes it is all I can do to rest in the knowledge of His love. Thanks, Cindy, for provoking thought.

  10. My husband is a very humble man! 90% of the time, he is the one that asks forgiveness and admits his mistakes and failures. I’ve always called myself stubborn…not prideful. In fact, internally I’ve always been proud that I’m not prideful (huh?!)
    Thank you for calling it what it is…sin! The Spirit has used your words to convict me of my sin…And I’m so thankful that there’s a cure for sin…Jesus Christ and Him alone!

  11. Cindy you are so right. I think that the perfect place to learn this humility is when you are a child. I cant tell you how many times I’ve apologized to my children for being grumpy, or taking my bad day out on them. My humility (or lack thereof) is contagious and sets the stage for what is expected of them.

    We’ve always insisted on apologies being swift and specific. “I’m sorry I made fun of your artwork. Will you forgive me?” Just saying “sorry” is never acceptable. I think if we can teach this lesson to our children we will have fewer adults who are unable to utter the words “I screwed up.”

    Thanks for bringing up such an important topic.

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