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Pride vs. Humility #1

Gnaw on this for a while:

Proud, unbroken people want to be sure nobody finds out about their sin.

Humble, broke people are willing to be exposed (once broken, you don’t care who knows –  you have nothing to lose!)

Discuss.

24 thoughts on “Pride vs. Humility #1”

  1. Thi s is something I have discussed with my counselor. I don’t understand the concept of thinking it is WRONG or WEIRD or SCARY to get help. I am so thrilled to share my counseling experience!!!! I agree!

  2. The great thing about revealing your pain and secret sin to others is that the enemy has nothing to hold over your head. Whatever he has to say about that sin becomes redundant because it’s been covered by the blood Jesus shed on the cross. Keeping the secrets mean we have something to lose. Revealing it makes us feel the freedom that we have in Christ. I have nothing to lose.

  3. It’s a freedom from shame when you can share your sin and in a way that glorifies God….like here’s what I did…but look what God turned me in to!!! It’s like you almost WANT to tell people. Is that weird???

  4. i think this is bonhoeffer:

    “he who is alone with his sin is utterly alone.”

    the light of Christ disarms so much…

  5. My dad told me when I was young that some exposure is good for your spiritual growth. Uninhibited exposure can not only hurt your testimony as a believer, but possibly cause a fellow believer to stumble. Just a thought.

  6. This struck a chord with me this week especially, as I am having to deal with a friend who’s being extremely prideful and thus hurtful. The sad part: everyone recognizes the pride is a cover-up.

    My, how often we make things worse by pretending everything is fine.

  7. Amen Sister! When people say I can’t tell my story I just crack up, because I was a mess before Christ took over my life. He has taken me from a world of sin, pride and materialism to higher heights living for Him. I still struggle, but I freely admit it when I do. It is very freeing to admit my struggles now.

  8. Scott – Uninhibited exposure can possibly hurt your testimony but I think, in my opinion, that it’s worth the risk. So many more will benefit. Craig preached about Chris’ fall the following Sunday to our entire congregation. I wasn’t there but was told it was amazing. A handful (out of a couple thousand) were bothered because they thought it was TMI…but the majority were blessed at the authenticity that Craig displayed as well as the fact that there was nothing to gossip about. It was all out on the table which helped speed along the healing process.

    I’m all about uninhibited exposure but every person is different and they have to share as much or as little as they are comfortable with.

    Thanks for the comment and thought process!

  9. It reminds me of Proverbs 18:12

    Before his downfall a man’s heart is proud,
    but humility comes before honor.

    and Psalm 51:17

    17 The sacrifices of God are [a] a broken spirit;
    a broken and contrite heart,
    O God, you will not despise.

    and James 5:16

    16Therefore confess your sins to each other and pray for each other so that you may be healed. The prayer of a righteous man is powerful and effective.

    Confession not only brings healing but also brings humility which brings honor…

    I think about David…He was a man after God’s own heart. A new depth of intimacy and passion was brithed in his relationship with God when he was confronted and repented openly of his sin with Bathsheba.

  10. Uninhibited or TMI? Plain and simple, God saved me. How do I not share all the things that He has done?

    The number one thing I have learned is that I cannot have pride if I am to serve the Almighty God. I am His bondservant. My Lord knows my wounds because he can clearly see every last one of my scars. Only because of Him am I made whole.

    Nothing I can do or undo, nothing I can fix or work on, nothing in my finite meager power can compare to what He has done and will do for me.

    If that means exposing my soul to those around me, then so be it. I share my testimony because I know there is somebody who is or has gone through something similar to what I have been through. They are not alone in this world.

  11. Have to disagree with you “readScott! I agree with Cindy…let it out! Only REAL Truth will set you Free and can help others in their walk. We ALL sin but so many of us want to tuck the YUCK under the rug verses….embracing it, learning from it, being vulnerable (let go of the pride), and teach others how GOD can change lives! No one will stumble on YOUR sin if you are a soft place to fall. The only stumbling that goes on is when we all PRETEND we are perfect and play Christian.

  12. “Being Real” has been a blessing in my life. It has also hurt me…..when other people wanted me to have the “I have Jesus, so I am happy all the time” mentality and I couldn’t fall within their mold.

    I am broken, I have had awful, horrific things happen to me and I refuse to embarrassed about it. It is only in our brokenness that Jesus can become real in our lives.

    I have been taking Celebrate Recovery at my church for the past 3 months and it has allowed me the freedom to admit my brokenness in front of a large group of people and not be ashamed.

    God can do amazing things through totally broken people!

  13. I agree with you Cindy on everything you said.

    It HAS to be brought into the light or the evil one will continue to abuse you in the dark and keep you in bondage with your sin, secret or otherwise!

    You have no idea how much my husband and I have talked about your story. We have such a respect for you and your husband but also your great church! Many may have thought it was TIMI but the one harm I see in churches today is the most deadliest weapon of all….the tongue and gossip.

    My husband was mentored and lived with Tom Nelson from Denton Bible Church for three years as a young man out of college. He was one of the original ‘young guns’ (a program Tommy has) and were the guinea pigs to his series on the teachings of the Song of Solomon. Tom is straightforward and truthful. Sweeping the crud out from under the rug and into the light will help not only yourself but those that are around to experience it and then those that hear later on.
    Blessings to you!!!
    Vickie@PursuingSimplicity

  14. so true. Its so hard for us/me to realize that my sin, no matter how perverse or even how “pretty”, has been taken care of. It no longer has to be hidden. Derek Webb mentioned on his House Show CD that we might all be in a lot better shape if all our sins were broadcast on the 5 o’clock news.

    There’s a lot to say about authenticity and transparency. I think there’s always room for discernment, there’s always room for wisdom but being transparent doesn’t have to mean going into every explicit detail about my porn addiction with everyone I come in contact with. But it does mean admitting that I’m really screwed up and it took a Big God sending His Son to clear those sins from my record. It means pushing aside my self righteousness and showing people that God has a thing for screw ups.

  15. Cindy…have I told you lately that I love you!
    God is amazing! I was just thinking about similar ideas, and reading this & all these comments = good =)
    *One of my curious questions is something I thought about today while chatting with some people… why is porn like the main topic for guys & accountability (almost to the point where it is expected to be an issue) and for ladies it is never even thought of to be an issue? Girls talk about food…and diets and chocolate…and…shopping addictions, and…

  16. Not sure why I said, Anna… Except for-this is why I don’t comment a lot! Because I write what I think and don’t read it first! Sheesh! I know this is Cindy, I had just read Anna’s comment. man…. Insert foot into mouth. ha! I make myself laugh!

  17. Yeah, I love how we can expose the sin and then there’s nothing to do past that! I really appreciate how Craig handles situations like that with our church…we just put it out there so that no one can gossip about it…

    I really hate how Satan uses our shame to guilt us into not turning to God. He uses our guilt to keep us away, thinking that God must be mad at us and is impatient with our constant failures. It’s that sense of guilt (which is a very “me” way of thinking) that hinders our relationship with Him and others…not necessarily always the sin.

    I’m thankful that you guys are an example of how bringing sin into the light exposes it for what it is..allowing you to deal with it. Love it! Sorry for rambling!

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