I learned some time back that my answer was enough. That my “yes” or my “no” was all that was necessary. I didn’t need to throw in a “because I’m just so tired” or a “you know, the kids really need to spend time with me” after my answer. You know what I’m talking about. When you are invited to do something or be a part of a gathering or go somewhere and you really just can’t. Or better yet, you really just don’t care to do the thing. I tell people that they don’t owe me an explanation. If I invite someone to do something and they can’t, that is just fine. Their simple yes or no response is enough for me. (Of course, I am thinking to myself how jolly of a good time they’ll be missing with me because I can be quite fun. And entertaining.) If you feel that you owe someone an explanation with your answer, consider changing your response. Instead of saying, “I can’t make it because my son has a baseball game” try saying, “I’m just not going to be able to make it this time. Thank you!” I promise you that some people will feel that you owe them an explanation. I assure you that you do not. Something to think about.