Exclusive possession or control. You’ve been in Bible studies, small groups, teams at work with this person. She’s the person people roll their eyes at when she arrives for the meeting. He’s the guy who always has an answer and wants to make sure everyone else knows how smart he is. They’re the people who don’t really listen because they’re busy coming up with their response that they’ll share in a 3-5 minute monologue. They monopolize situations. Are you this person? I have relationships with younger women in my life whom I mentor. They asked me to mentor them because I’m older and they felt I could participate in their life in some way. I’m honored that they’ve asked me and I take it very seriously. However, I don’t like to be around people who always monopolize a conversation so I make sure I am not that person as I mentor. And I do that in one way. I ask questions. I am sure the girls I mentor are probably tired of talking because I’m usually bombarding them with questions that are probably not on the forefront of their mind. I do chime in and share my thoughts plenty because I know they want to hear them, but I definitely let them do more talking than me. And when the time is appropriate, I jump in and say, “Let me tell you what I think about this…” And they listen. Because I’ve earned it. If you want to have healthy relationships, don’t always do the talking. Let others. Be a student of them and learn how they work.