•NEVER, EVER dishonor one another in public. (i.e., make jokes at the other’s expense, cut each other down, belittle one another) •Have sex. Often. (Gentlemen, please send the checks made out to me.) •Think of your spouse more than you think of yourself. •Figure out how your spouse feels loved. (The Five Love Languages by Gary Chapman can help.) •Find a common activity to do together. (i.e., camping, gardening, attending concerts, etc.) •Don’t let your parents expectations and decisions run your marriage. This is a sure recipe for disaster. (Chris’ parents and my mom have been AWESOME and haven’t tried to run our lives as their grown children. We are blessed!) •Stay unified in front of your children. If you disagree about how one or both of you is handling as issue concerning them, discuss it in private. •Don’t be afraid to have conflicts in front of your children. Not a nasty, ugly fight, by any means. If children never see any conflict in your marriage, they might panic and want to call it quits in their own marriages when conflict does arise. Cuz all y’all know there is conflict in marriage. •Become best friends if you aren’t already. •Don’t throw past offenses back in each other’s faces. If you’ve forgiven him/her, don’t bring it up again. Period. •Pray for each other. •Eat dinner together without the TV on especially when children enter your lives.Well, I could go on, you understand, but I’ll step down from my soap box. It’s a really big box.
Rachel and Carey both wanted to hear some advice on marriage…especially during their early years. Here are some things that we have seen proven in our marriage over the last 15 years.