Mentoring

Let Me Use My Gift!

I know who I am. I am a child of the King. I am more than a conquerer in Christ. I am chosen. I know how God has wired me. I also know how He has not. My passion is writing, my calling is mentoring and my primary spiritual gifting is exhortation. I have looked at many a website and read a handful of books on the subject of spiritual gifts in my life. For those of you who aren’t sure what exhortation means, I thought I’d give you a definition. This comes from the KodaChrome website.
The ability to help others reach their full potential by means of encouraging, challenging, comforting and guiding.
This gift has also been called encouragement. However, using this particular term states that you are encouraging someone which typically means you are saying something nice and uplifting to them. This is, by all means, extremely necessary in the body of Christ, but not the only action that is needed. My friend in San Antonio says, “you’re my own personal Dr. Phil” because I tell it like it is. Granted, we’ve been friends for over 11 years so I’ve pretty much earned the right to do that with her. She has never accused me of showing too much mercy. In fact, I run pretty low in that department, if I’m being gut-level honest. This gift of exhortation is in me. Deep down inside me. I absolutely breathe it and love to operate in it. While others may struggle with seeing the good in a situation or in someone, I can find it. It’s just how I’m wired…plain and simple. Please do not let this post come across as arrogance. I assure you, it is not. As I mentioned above, I know how God has wired me and I know how He has not. Which brings me to the title of my post. Thank you. They aren’t hard words to say. Really, it’s just two little words. It’s “thank” and “you”. I bet if you try to say them right now as you are sitting at your computer, you can do it. Go ahead. Give it a try. Why do so many people have a hard time saying those two words? Especially when someone is saying something encouraging to them? If you are one of those people, my exhortation to you is to get over it and say the words. See, I’m already into my gifting this morning 🙂 Because I operate in my gifting regularly, I am making sure that I obey the prompting of God’s Spirit when he puts something on my heart. In the case of encouragement, when I think something nice or positive about someone, I tell the person. And often I am met with a “Oh, it’s really God” or “I’m just a sinner saved by grace”Blah, blah, blah. When you say that to me or to anyone else who is trying to build you up LIKE THE BIBLE SAYS TO DO, you are robbing that individual of using his/her gift. I’m just sayin’. So, please, let me use my gift. Let the other people around you use their gifts. And if you don’t know your gift, there are numerous online resources to help you figure it out. Just do a search of spiritual gifts and you’ll see a slew of online assessments. Because you have something to offer the body of Christ. I’ve told you how I’m wired. I’d like to know how you are. Do tell.

20 thoughts on “Let Me Use My Gift!”

  1. Like you, I am an exhorter. I have such a heart desire to see people be overcomers…to do well….to see that with Jesus and the Truth of His word in their lives they can live a joy filled life of FREEDOM!

    Oh, and THANK YOU for sharing this! 🙂

  2. I have the gifts of prophecy (truth telling using the Word), teaching, knowledge, wisdom and “encouragement” as well. Guess that’s why I’m low-maintenance, I can give myself a piece of my mind! er, His mind…

  3. Hmmm. I’m not sure what my exact spiritual gifts would be. I do know that I am good with discernment, I am a listener, I am compassionate. I am going to go find one of those online resources and figure myself out! Thanks for the great post.

  4. Discernment, encouraging and shepherding are my top three gifts. I love to listen. I can listen just by watching people. Sometimes what is not said is louder than what’s being said. Sometimes a look is worth a thousand words. People long to be heard. I think my discernment awakens me first to the need and His heart inside me does the rest. I’ve got to admit though, just saying “thank you” is something I struggle with. Giving, for me, is much easier than receiving.

  5. Sad to say I really wasn’t sure what my Spiritual Gifting was/is. My friend wants me to meet a Lady that can see your angels and I am scared that I might not have any so I haven’t met her yet. Sad I know.

    I took one of the many tests and found my top listed gift to be: Faith
    Than Encouragement.

    Thanks you gave me alot to think about.

  6. I just love you and your gifts!! 🙂

    Based upon the test, my top spiritual gifts are leadership, administration, and exhortation. I’m realizing those are exactly what God’s given me! I think finding out how God has designed us is one of the most powerful things for personal growth. It wasn’t until I fully understood these gifts that God put me in my current position as Host Team Coordinator. And I absolutely love doing what God designed me to do!!! And discovering what other’s gifts are and putting them in a role to use them!

  7. Leadership and intercession.

    I can usually see all the different balls in the and be able to formulate a plan pretty quickly to make sure they are all covered. That makes me pretty popular when it comes to proejcts and getting things done.

    Intercession is by far the gift tho’ that makes me stand in complete humility and most often in the fear of God. To be trusted with the things He whispers, and then to know what to do with them is something that I pray for authenticity on every single day.

    Saying “God told me….” means different things to different people but I do know that when intercessors say “God told me….” it’s a whole ‘nother ball of wax. And it is probably THAT which keeps me on my knees more than anything else…. So many people are looking to all kinds of ways and means to find ‘their path’ that they can depend too heavily on someone else’s gift without doing the hard work of being on their knees themselves. Does that make sense?

    V.

  8. In my experience the hardest two words that people have hard time saying are not “thank you” but more like “I’m Sorry” (ok that’s three words- but you know what I mean).

  9. Well last time I took it, and I have been told that gifts can sometimes change, I was Faith, Prayer and Hospitality. Yeah, I’m a behind the scenes kind of gal 🙂

  10. It’s taken a LONG time to be able to respond with “thank you” when someone compliments or encourages me…still working on it.
    I also have been gifted in Exhortation (much easier to give encouragement, challenges, etc than receive)

    Shepherding and teaching closely follow. Haven’t quite learned to operate in them fully and best, but one day…

  11. I’ve been “blessed” with the gift of discernment. Unfortunately when I haven’t used it in the right spirit, it comes across as pessimism or judging. BUT…when used correctly, I am able to give wisdom…sometimes….to some people. I don’t know…sometimes I’d rather be in the dark.

    I do thank God for it. When I am walking closely with Him it seems to flow well and productively. During the times when I haven’t in the past, it comes accross as just plain mean.

    Interesting how the same thing can have two different sides.

  12. “thank You!” Just wanted to put it out there! You have encouraged me to tithe this month, for the first time, on our gross budget and to our home church. We usually just send our tithe to Haiti friends/hospital and just do it on our bring home and sporadic at best. I can’t wait to see how God uses it and helps us grow. so, Thanks for using your gifts! hugs Amy

  13. Shepherding, faith, leadership…it’s my passion to see people follow Him, and anything I can do to make that happen just makes me tick. Put me on a stage with a microphone, wind me up, and watch out. Sounds arrogant, I know, but like you, I know how I’m wired – and God created the wiring schematic.

    Oh – and THANK YOU – you are an amazing encourager though I’ve never had a chance to meet you personally. I can always find encouragement in your blog…and your story!

  14. Actually, exortation is my top spiritual gift as well… thank you for the definition…

    I’ve found it interesting that exortation is not just about uplifting and encouraging… but challenging to move to action… sometimes doing that isn’t all nice and pretty…

  15. I got wisdom, discernment, teaching, knowledge, admin, and prophecy (they all totaled within about 3 points). I was just trying to explain to someone the other day how hard it is for me when people just don’t get it. God’s certainly developing me in that area, but it’s taking a long time. And I am certain I was not created to have mercy, as difficult as it is to explain that to my mom and brother. 🙂

  16. You wanna know the best gift, whether it be spiritual, office or otherwise?

    It is the gift that God gives you in that moment that it is needed to give Him all the glory.

    We are all blessed with gifts and talents in order to do His will. Just don’t be surprised that you are so obedient that He needs you to do something different… even it is just once.

  17. Cindy, THANK YOU for sharing this. I needed to hear this. So many times, with my lack of wonderful self esteem, I rob others from using their gift of encouragement. I will try to do better. Thank you for opening my eyes. I admire you. Oh- and I LOVE the new look of your blog! (not sure how long it has been this way, but I admit I haven’t been reading a lot of blogs lately.) Thanks again!

  18. exhortation is mine; of course i feel there is always something beneath the surface that god is pulling out to expand me…to make me more than i believe i am worth being.

    discipleship is where i’ve been called.

  19. I pretty sure I have both the gift of exhortation and the gift of amazing lasagna. Me and my self praise and lasagna…we are a great team. 🙂

    All kidding aside…To people who have never been encouraged or praised, or who have low self esteem, exhortation can be like crack. I have seen this in my own children especially. When they were little they would color pictures and then bring them to me. I’d praise them and tell them how they were little geniuses…and then they’d run to the other room, scribble on a sheet of paper and bring it to me quick just to hear me say something positive again. Is this a common phenomenon for families of encouragers? I also wonder if after a while my encouragement loses its effectiveness on those closest to me.

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