Mentoring

Lessons From Proverbs – #2

A wife of noble character is her husband’s crown, but a disgraceful wife is like decay in his bones.  Proverbs 12:4
My greatest desire on this earth is to honor God with my life by developing a pure heart and a proven character.  My life is for Him.  But, that second to that, I want to be a wife that my husband is proud of. I want my husband’s full confidence.  When I don’t have it, it crushes me.  Because I don’t always have it when I say things that I shouldn’t say or act in ways I shouldn’t act. Just being honest. Not only do I want him to have full confidence in my character, I also do my best to stay attractive for him.  Not that I’m trying to be a fashion goddess by any means, but just presenting myself in a way that he is proud. Again, just being honest. I think it’s important to keep ourselves healthy in spirit, mind, soul and body for our Lord and for our husbands. Thoughts?

6 thoughts on “Lessons From Proverbs – #2”

  1. Ok, so I have been reading your blog for over a year now, and love it….but I never comment! So I am going to today! I agree with that. Our husbands do not want to be ashamed of a daggy, unkempt wife. I know there are times when I just love pajama type days, but I also like (mostly) dressing up and showing him I care about him. I have a friend that used to live down the road who is a muslim lady. She always wears her head cover when outside and no make-up. But one day when I went to visit she came to the door with her hair all done and her face nicely done with make-up. She invited me in and explained that she likes to dress like that at home for her husband! I was really challenged, because I thought , we usually do the opposite. We dress up to go out so everyone else can see us, but at home we don’t really care. I saw that as a sign of respect to her husband. I am also very excited that you have got a book contract, that is awesome xx

  2. I agree Cindy. So many let themselves go. I believe it’s dishonoring the Lord as well as ourselves and husband to just let ourselves go.

  3. I am guilty of letting myself go.

    In the past, I was attempting to be the best wife and mother that I could be by preparing meals that my family liked, getting involved in my church and my childrens interests.

    I have always been a working person, 8 – 5, outside the home. My evenings and weekend were full being Sunday School teacher, team mom, volunteer for school activities, volunteer at church.

    During this time, I felt that it was selfish to take time for myself. I thought that there would be time for that when the children were grown. Over the years I steadily gained weight from poor food choices and lack of exercise.

    About 3 years ago, I was diagnosed with Rheumatoid Arthritis, a very painful and crippling disease. I am now learning how to take care of myself and I have realized that the best way to take care of your family is to take care of yourself first. This is not selfish. God wants you to take care of yourself.

    Being healthy by eating right, exercising, and resting when you are tired is so beneficial to you. Your moods, your emotions and your clarity of mind improve. I could have been a even better wife and mother had I listened and learned so many years ago.

  4. Agreed. That’s why I kissed track suits goodbye about 8 years ago. I loved those comfy things … but boy, he hated them. 🙂

    You’re awesome, Cindy!

  5. I dont like make up (because I feel guilty when I dont wash it off at night 🙂 ) But I do wear it at home for My Man, but not much out and about unless we are going to be together, like Church.

    Mom clothes can be awful…. But choosing wisely, knowing what looks good on your body type, playing up assets, can be comfortable and look fabulous. I have yet to see a woman who doesnt look good in an A-line skirt and a good t-shirt that fits her body with little sandals….

    All that to say, its not an either or – I can be all things to all people 🙂 Me/comfortable – Him/Fine

    Mostly, I have found that how I treat him, how we talk, share, and ahem often…. does more for how he sees me than putting on nice clothes and looking good, if I am a hag.

    Just saying – food and a little aheming goes a long way!!! Was that TMI?

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