Raising An INFP


This precious little man of mine is an INFP. When I realized what his personality was, I told my friend, Jerry Hurley, also an INFP, about it. He responded laughingly, “I’m so sorry.” If you are curious about those four CAPITAL letters and want to know what in the heck I’m talking about, I’ll tell you. Those four letters label someone’s personality according to the Myers Briggs Type Indicator. If you’d like to take a test to find out what your letters are, click HERE. I took the test years ago and found out that I’m an ESFJ and the Hubby is an ENTJ. And we’re raising an INFP. Sweet Jesus. Here’s the gist of the letters: E/I – Extrovert/Introvert S/N – Sensing/Intuitive (How you take in information) F/T – Feeler/Thinker J/P – Judging/Perceiving Basically, Noah is an introvert who is very intuitive and feels very deeply but could really care less about anything organized. And for this spreadsheet-lovin’ momma, that’s just not right. But, we absolutely adore him and believe that he, in his INFP world, will bring just as much importance and joy as any ESFJ or ENTJ would. We know he’ll be a world changer for Christ. If you know what your letters are, do share!

55 thoughts on “Raising An INFP”

  1. I’m an INFP too…it is indeed very hard for me to grow up in my world where everyone seems different from me,,,and the hardest thing is that I am gay…it would be okay if this is accepted by my community but it is not..being an infp and gay at the same time is very hard..the thing is i don’t conform to anything i don’t believe this puts much conflict to me…for ur son i can say give him enough freedom..for an infp freedom is our food…

  2. I’m also an INFP man, and my 10 year old son is also INFP. I see so much of my own behaviors in him, both the good and the bad. I know he feels isolated and lonely sometimes, different from everyone else, but fortunately he has a best friend who he clicks with. Unfortunately, his best friend is home-schooled and thus he only gets to see him on the weekends and at karate in the evenings.

    Even at 10, he is interested in girls and says he wants to get married one day, but is pessimistic about his chances, thinking girls will all find him “weird”. It can be hard for an INFP man to find a woman who appreciates him, I was 25 before I met my wife, who was also my first girlfriend.

    There are a lot of good things about being INFP, though, and I think it is a neat thing that my son has an INFP dad who “gets” him.

  3. I’m an infp but I don’t get why everyones saying ” oh it’s so hard being an infp nobody understands me ” ok it’s difficult sometimes because no one ever is on the same page as you and that can be difficult but I still find friends and my ‘little world’ isn’t like an imaginary place even when I was younger my imaginary friends didn’t play with me much because I was perfectly happy to play by myself then at the age of 7 I got a brother so a big gap but I spent less time on my own and we are similer and close. By the way I didn’t mean to like offend anyone by mocking you slightly I suppose when I wrote the it’s hard to be an infp quotevi could’ve offended someone. I’m sensitive too. Yeah so I’m 12 so I don’t know proper love and stuff but I’m pretty confident I’m an infp because every time I take a test I get INFP. The only person I’ve ever had like a bond with was a guy who I’m fairly confident that he’s an infp or something similar.

  4. Hey there!
    I’m an INFP too! (Btw, your little man is very handsome looking kid I must say!)
    I’m currently 18 and things do change when you’re old enough to vote.
    As a child, life was indeed hard! I remember when I was 8, I was mocked in class for playing with my friends (the ants), isolated because I chose to befriend the nerd of the class, isolated for being plain weird, as well as for not being able to conform to anything that the kids at school believed!
    University: Now old enough to safely look back at my childhood (all 17 years of it I guess) and assess myself (as well as mature enough to be honest and realistic about who I am) I find that the years of being misunderstood, the years where I’ve fought tears and loneliness to be who I am today, they were nothing short of worthy. Where I used to pout and cry and turn myself away in the hopes of finding someone else in the mirror, I now stare into the mirror and see a unique woman staring back.
    I’m not praising myself. Rather, I am amazed now as I look back, at the power of the INFP.

    When I stared at the ants, it was not because I had no other friends to turn to, it was out of wonder of there tiny world, when I befriended the nerd of the class, it was because I truly saw him, not as a nerd, but as the most awesome person in the world: a friend. When I was isolated, although I felt horrid, it also set me away from them. There was no danger that one day, I will, like them, bully a harmless well meaning child.
    INFP has dominated my life in childhood. It could be better, but now, I can’t be happier to be who I am. I am greatly thankful to whoever it was who gave me this black-sheep-personality.
    Because not everyone gets that warm fuzzy feeling when they give 25 cents to a homeless old man sitting unnoticed on the side of the road. Not everyone sees the great sunlight slanting through the autumn leaves and feel not only the warmth of the sun, but of the portrait so perfectly painted by nature. Not everyone will see that life is not to go through and come out successful, but to go through, live it, and come out leaving behind something that will be cherished, be it the INFP’s infinite love or their belief in the greater good.
    Your little man may go through an awkward phase. But he will emerge as a difference maker one day like these famous INFP’s: Mother Teresa, Virgin Mary, Mother of God, John F. Kennedy Jr., his mother, Martin Luther King Jr. and more!

    Sorry this was so long…
    But I hope it helps. Because (yes another thing again…=)) INFP’s cannot get enough of helping!

  5. Hi I’m an INFP too. My parents are mom-INTJ, dad-INFP/ENFP, so there was always a lot of understanding of what made me tick, but I think even then I was a bit of a challenge. I think the challenge was that I’m sooo sensitive (I can finally admit that to myself) and I’m an independent thinker. Just following the rules wasn’t enough for me, they had to make sense.

    Your husband as an ENTJ could be a great lifeline to your son as he grows up… but he may need to focus on communicating to him through Intuition, instead of Thinking. My INTJ mom was my rock growing up… she let me be myself which kept me from rebelling, and she valued my Intuition.

    I had a TON of ESFJ friends growing up, and I think they helped me develop socially. So you can help your son gain confidence in himself as far as fitting in (INFPs always feel different). And you husband (as an ENTJ) will help him value and maintain his individuality. So you really have a lot to offer as parents to this philosophical little guy.

    The only major difference he has from you guys the Introversion, and Perceiving. Just give him time to sit around and think or write, with no plans.. he will probably need to do that often for the rest of his life!

    As far as winning people for Christ, my INFP/ENFP dad is a dedicated, and impactful pastor. Ministry is not foreign at all to INFPs.

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