Motherhood

I Broke My Promise

A few months ago I made a promise to a little boy. And since that day, I’ve broken that promise many times.  Not because I planned to.  It just happened.  A phone call here, a phone call there that I just had to take.  I still believe that texting while driving is extremely dangerous.  So, there is a little saving grace in this because I do not text while I’m driving… Anymore. Making the decision not to talk on the phone while I’m driving was probably not the wisest one, or the most realistic one.  I mean, most of the time I’ve done it in the last few months has been out of necessity.  Most of my girlfriends know I’m not a talker so for me to just pick up the phone and gab, well, that’s just not going to happen. But when the hubby calls, or my mother or my neighbor telling me she’ll get the kids from school for me, I pick up.  If I see my boss’s name light up the screen, I answer.  If any of my BS girls gives me a ring, I usually pick up.  I’ve tried to explain this to Noah but he doesn’t seem interested in my excuses.  Even though they sound legitimate to me. While I haven’t talked on the phone while I’m driving very much, just the fact that I have has made my 10-year old say, “You promised that you wouldn’t talk on the phone while you are driving and you’ve broken that promise.” Hearing that from him has not been easy.  In fact, it’s been a bit heartbreaking. When I write, my goal is to encourage…to motivate…to challenge…to lift up.  And if I heard this story from one of you, I would encourage you to not be so hard on yourself when you make a mistake.  I would motivate you to admit your wrongdoing.  I would challenge you to figure out a compromise with your child.  Then, I would lift you up and let you know that no parent is perfect. So, I’m taking my own advice. Ever broken a promise to one of your children? Hard, huh?

14 thoughts on “I Broke My Promise”

  1. Yes, broken promises……ouch! What I am learning is to always turn it back to God, who never breaks His promises. THAT is one thing I CAN promise them. Even the little stuff. “I”m just not 100% sure” is my most recent answer.

  2. I have discovered that I am a model for my kiddos…especially when it comes to saying “I’m sorry”. I didn’t have that growing up so I’m not very good or comfortable with it. I have realized that my kids are very quick to say sorry and mean it. I have to believe that in all the mistakes I have made…I see the good in it when I model for them the humility it takes to say “sorry”.

    So messing up…the good is that our kids will expect a more realistic ideal from themselves as they see our “true” selves and we stay honest with them.

    so good for you to take your own advice which is very good and true! keep “keeping on”.

    love to you friend!

  3. I will be the friend that tells you to quit being so hard on yourself. Yes you broke the promise. Yes you should try not to do this. Yes Noah is so stinking smart he is scary. I am standing by part of my comment to the post you referred us too.

    “You are too cute… Why you ask.

    Well you don’t really listen to the radio when the boys are in the car. (this I have witnessed) I doubt that you talk much on your cell when the boys are in the car unless it is to their Dad. I’m just saying….I could be wrong. (DOUBT IT)”

    I know how good of a mother you are. It is just a reminder from your son that you are human. Love Ya

  4. Yep. My children all know that this mommy is nowhere near perfect. I think saying “I’m sorry” to my children is one of the best lessons I can ever teach them.

    BTW, I think I’m the only person left in America that doesn’t own a cell phone! 🙂

    -Melissa

  5. Hey Cindy…

    That’s a difficult spot to be in… I guess it’s important to consider our promises wisely before making them. What are the cell phone laws for you area? Personally, I keep my cell phone off almost all the time and vey rarely use it… that is assuming I even have it with me when I’m out, which I usually don’t… but then I suppose I’m quite odd that way.
    Kace

  6. Yes, I have broken promises to my girls. Mostly dealing with little things we will do together, such as painting nails, working on a book, etc. It hurts to not keep my word. Also, I give you an applaud about not using your cell phone while driving! This is a good lesson for all of us.

  7. Bluetooth headset. Get one.

    I don’t take calls by hand or txt while driving.

    I do, however use my GPS from my phone and will take calls on my BT ear piece. I mount my phone away from the wheel and where I can glimpse at it easily.

    Be a responsible driver. Get a BT ear piece. They even come in matching colors for your phone…

    Keep your promise. 😉

  8. Oh my kids are my accountability partners. I teach them, let your yes be yes and your no be no (“you don’t have to promise” they echo).

    As soon as I start to now follow-thru with with I said I would do, this is what I hear, “mom, keeping your word is important…let your yes be yes mom…are there different rules for you?”

    OUCH!

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