Motherhood

Honoring Our Authorities

My oldest, Noah, came home the other day and said something negative about President Obama.  I asked him where he heard that.  He said, “Some kid at school.” Now, I’m not a bettin’ woman, but if I was, I’d bet that the kid heard that from his parents.  I mean, how many 4th graders are really spending time keeping up with our politics in America? I’m guessing not many. And that whole interchange with Noah got me to thinking. What am I saying about those in authority over me?  How do I treat those who are considered my authorities?  My husband, my boss, my pastor, my governor, the police, my President? I let Noah know that we were not going to disrespect our President simply because he makes a decision that we don’t like. Now, just because I’m defending the President doesn’t mean I voted for him and just because I don’t agree with him doesn’t mean I didn’t.  This blog has never been political and never will be.  That’s not who I am. I am, however, a mother who is trying to teach respect to her sons…even when they don’t agree with their authority. How do you teach your children to respect authority?

11 thoughts on “Honoring Our Authorities”

  1. I have no children because I haven’t married but I will learn to teach my children about authority, out of my own opinion but based on His represent.

  2. By example…

    It’s not easy either. I have certain circumstances in my life that are extremely hard to honor, but In front of my kids especially my daughter (in this) I show her to love, honor, obedience by my example.

  3. By example, but we also discuss these things often. From showing respect in how we address those in authority to how we speak about them. Whenever situations come up like the one with Noah did, we address it immediately.

  4. Well…. I think respect and honor has to be earned no matter if a guy is president or dog catcher. But I try to separate the office of authority vs. the man or woman. It was hard to respect Clinton with his indisretions and his attitude of lying and lack of character but I could still respect the office he was elected to. Authority and character have to be separated when we teach our kids and the standard applied should be one that is indisputable like God’s word.

  5. I do by respecting my husband. Two things showed me the importance of it. I wondered, when I had kids, WHY my brothers and sister and I lost respect for our mother. I wasn’t looking for an excuse…I knew we’d been wrong. But I wanted to know how I could keep my children’s respect.

    After a lot of soul searching, I realized that it was because my mother regularly showed us that she did NOT respect our father. Yeah, she did in some ways… but there were several very potent ways in which she did not. I realized that, even as very small children…too young to understand very much at all of marriage and submission and authority and love and respect…we still knew that it wasn’t right, and we resented it.

    This was then cemented in me when I read a woman’s blog, somewhere… she was saying how many women complain that their kids don’t respect them. They want to know where they get their disrespectful attitudes when they’re teenagers. They want to know why the discipline that they’ve worked so hard to achieve suddenly goes out the window as soon as the child discovers that they’re old enough that there’s nothing that their parent can really do to them, if they want to disobey badly enough. Well, this woman writing the blog asked a simple question. “What type of a man is your husband?” Immediately, those same women started complaining about their husband’s faults and broadcasting them to the group. She listened in silence for only a moment, then quietly said something along the lines of: “Listen to yourselves. Now you know where your children learned disrespect.”

    That really impacted me. So that’s how I teach my children respect… daily, by example.

  6. My husband has been wonderful in this. The night after the election as we knelt with our littlest, the first words out of his mouth, talking to God was to thank him for Obama. I wanted to die – honestly….Then my husband put his hand on mine and patted. After the littlest was done with his prayer – he looked at us so pleased with himself. And I smiled and my husband told him what a wonderful prayer and that the new President will need everyone to lift him up to the Father in order to make wise decisions. And then he reminded US (me mostly) that God put him in place and He will hold him up or remove him at God’s fancy and not ours.

    My husband’s leadership put a peace in me about my child’s prayer who continues to hold Obama up in prayer and has even added him to my prayers.

    It has also opened up a dialogue between us and our children about the things our leaders do and how they fit in with obedience to God. We discuss decisions we do not think were right, we pray about those decisions and we thank God for where He will take this Country – rise or fall – we are in His hands.

  7. I have always struggled with this issue. I’ve never thought about how I’m teaching my kids. Great. One more thing for me to be thinking about. Life would be easier if I were just perfect.

  8. Thanks to Cindy & Jennifer! Children can certainly teach us parents/adults something! If only we can be “like a child” when it comes to faith, love, and acceptance.

    My prayer is that God would remove the judgmental and hypocritical spirits from Christian hearts. If only we would do as the Bible says and stop looking at the “plank in others eyes and get the speck out of own.” Maybe then our children would stay in church (once they become young adults) or maybe we could reach those children who are lost and need to know the Saving Grace of God and his unconditional, pure, love!

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