Getting Turned Down By Publishers Was The Best Thing That Could Have Happened

It was so close I could taste it. I’d been given some contacts in the publishing world by a friend who’d just published his third book. I made contact with each and every one of them. And I actually heard back from each and every one of them. And all of them were immediate denials. Except one. This particular publisher and I discussed my book and the possibility of it getting into print for nearly five months. The man with whom I made contact was gracious. He was kind. He was encouraging. And then he turned me down. He explained to me that the committee wasn’t sure how well a book like mine would do in the world. He said that since I didn’t read any books at the time of Chris’ confession in February of 2002, that they wondered if anyone else would. I wanted to explain to this man that when I went through what I went through over six years ago that there were no books for me to read. One of the books I eventually purchased, Every Heart Restored: A Wife’s Guide to Healing in the Wake of a Husband’s Sexual Sin, was published in 2004. I was two years into the process when it came out. Apparently, pornography and infidelity in Christian marriages is a hush-hush subject. Who knew? I will not lie to you. I wanted this book deal. I wanted to sign the first copy and give it to my mother. I wanted her to see her baby girl’s name on the front cover as a published author. I wanted it. Bad. Even though I knew that God ultimately had and still has my life in his hands, I was disappointed. I cried some. Some tears were from the death of what I thought would happen. Some where from anger. Some were because I would now be telling everyone who’d been praying that I was rejected. Yet here I am today. Nothing fancy going on with me. I don’t speak to groups of people about our struggles. I don’t get invited to attend conferences so that our story can be told. I don’t do book signings. I just answer email after email after email, week in and week out, every…single…week. Emails from women, and the occasional man, asking for help. Asking how I learned to trust again. Asking what they should do in their situation. Asking me, little ole me, for guidance as they begin their journey down a road I’ve been on for a while. And I wonder sometimes had I gotten that book deal, would I have invested this much into a web log called I don’t know. I just don’t know. What I do know is this. My Redeemer lives. He’s got the whole world in His hands. Not one of my tears falls to the ground without Him noticing. And He is absolutely about the business of healing.
Praise be to the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ, the Father of compassion and the God of all comfort, who comforts us in all our troubles, so that we can comfort those in any trouble with the comfort we ourselves have received from God.      2 Corinthians 1:3-4

19 thoughts on “Getting Turned Down By Publishers Was The Best Thing That Could Have Happened”

  1. i feel. although i’ve never tried to get a book published, i am always astonished by the emails after emails after emails i get from women struggling. asking little ole me to help. we don’t need our names in flashing lights to know that we have worth and something to give through Christ!

  2. You are ministering on a much more personal level, and perhaps that is what the Lord wants right now. His word tells us not to despise the days of small beginnings (not that you are). I guess I’m saying that you never know where this might go…

    And in the meantime, you are blessing the socks of a whole lotta people.


  3. Don’t give up on your dream, Cindy.

    I’ve recently heard this quote “God doesn’t put desires in our heart to frustrate them, but to fulfull them.”

    I’m sure you’ve heard of this type of venue but check out:

    You submit some info about your book and a proposal and Christian publishers check these entries often.

    God and His wisdom are all about timing and seasons.

  4. You are such an inspiration to me…and so many others, book published or not. I think there is such a need for books just like yours…our society is crushed by what happens to marriages each and every day. Just breaks my heart. I actually read that book you purchased, Every Heart Restored, and it really helped us.

    Keep your chin up…God IS in control. Love ya Girl!

  5. Interesting…

    I like Natalie’s quotable up there too.

    You will do all those things, I think.

    And you could come to our writer’s conference in April…i’m just sayin’.

  6. Such a heart like David’s you have. I read your passion for Him in all your words. Remember how long Joseph and David had to wait for God’s timing? How much greater and sweeter the success? Did God say “no” or did He just say “no, not right now.” We all know that this is a problem not just in the unsaved community – one day maybe people can actually be more open about it. Isn’t it strange how a Christian will more likely confess to being an addict than to confess the sin of infidelity? It is wonderful however that you are personally ministering to broken hearts and dreams – one on one.

  7. You and your book has been such an inspiration to me.I regularly read bits from your book, as it speaks directly to my heart in so many ways.Just keep on doing what you’re doing.I agree with what Danielle wrote.

  8. Your story and your book online have been such an encouragement and blessing to me. And to my family. And to countless others who may never contact you or comment here. I’m just saying…

  9. being in limbo is never fun, but trusting HIM is!!!
    i can relate, my friend. sometimes the humble position is the best FOR us, even if we would rather have the glamour!
    you are a precious, precious friend and a wise woman because of God’s grace.
    keep glorifying Him, and He will always have peace for your heart! (not something you don’t already know, right?)
    love your posts.
    keep going!!!

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