Motherhood

Get Those Girls Ready. Please?

I’m a momma.ย  Tried and true.ย  My boys are absolutely a delight to me. I love them to pieces. I believe that it is not only my job to educate them in math and science and history, but to also help them become the kind of men who will honor others above themselves, lead their families to follow Christ, have astonishing work ethics, notice a need and attend to it before they are asked and portray actions that come from the overflow of their deep integrity. I’m preparing my sons to treat your daughters well. Moms, are you preparing your daughters to do the same for my sons when they get married? No manipulation, no games, just respect and love. No temper tantrums, no withholding sex until they get what they want, no dogging him behind his back? You see, I may not have daughters, but I am a daughter and a married woman. I know the kind of games we, I can play. I have 56,231 friends and have known many women in my life. Some of them are amazing wives who, of course, have flaws but definitely do their best to honor their God, their husband and their children. I’ve also seen other women who do the things listed above and it about breaks my ever-lovin’ heart. No marriage will be perfect. Marriage is comprised of fallen individuals who struggle with their flesh. But, having a great marriage full of mutual honor, respect, submission and integrity doesn’t just happen. It has to be taught. Let’s teach our children. Oh, and if your daughter marries my son and she doesn’t encourage him to come home and visit his momma every now and again, I will be forced to buy a lake house that has all sorts of fun water craft associated with it, take them on free trips to the mountains and the beach and provide a free babysitter when they want some alone time. (I am not ashamed to bribe my children and grandchildren to come visit me.) (Not ashamed at all.) I don’t really have 56,231 friends, you understand.

12 thoughts on “Get Those Girls Ready. Please?”

  1. Oh, Cindy Beall, I couldn’t LOVE this more! You are so right! And I promise that I am committed to getting one little girl as ready as she can be. I tell people all the time that I believe in letting my children choose whom they marry – as long as they choose from my list of top ten approved spouses and families. ๐Ÿ˜‰ I am quite sure that you and Chris are doing the hard work necessary to get those precious Beall boys on the betrothal list of many a girl. I will surely add them to mine. ๐Ÿ™‚

    As for getting the boys ready, I am going to have my boys memorize Proverbs 31 with me. I love that that Scripture is, “The sayings of King Lemuelโ€”an inspired utterance his mother taught him.” May our utterances inspire our boys to “be” ready and to “know” ready when they see her.

  2. I love you Cindy Beall. I hope that one day my daughter meets a man like your boys that were raised by such a Godly woman. And I am trying to teach both of my children to be the kind of spouses they need to be to have incredible marriages. The kind God promises with love, respect and committment. Thank you for such a great post! ๐Ÿ™‚

  3. Yes ma’am am trying to raise my precious daughter to be a woman of God and a godly, wonderful wife. And am praying fervently for her future husband. Thank you for raising those boys in such a way. You are a treasure!!!!

  4. good post cindy….i now have deeper understanding as to why my mother in law has all those things listed and actually does take us on trips to mountains and beach….smart woman ๐Ÿ™‚

  5. Cindy – I love how you are putting all moms “on blast” here! I completely agree and am so inspired, a little relieved actually, to know that their are moms like you raising up the type of man I talk to my daughter about always. Too often, the focus is set on men treating women properly and not enough attention towards how wives should treat their husbands. You are a gem and an inspiration! I love you.

  6. I’m on the other side of raising kids now, my daughter’s are 23 & 26. My oldest just married a man I’ve been praying for her whole life. He loves God and treasures my daughter, what more could I want?

    I just want to say a HUGE amen to your hopes and your post. I’ve not been perfect, but I’ve tried to teach my daughters that prayer is their best option, there is no such thing as an impossible problem, Christians don’t have the right to be offended, and there is no better place for a wife than under the covering of her husband and God.

    I’m hoping lessons I learned the hard way will be blessings to them. I’m hoping my next son-in-law had a mom just like you. Thanks for sharing!

  7. This is great. My daughter is 4, but she has a few “boyfriends” at co-op and I am teaching her now how to be respectful and not so bossy to them. It’s hard when those little boys will do just about anything she asks. Our family mission is to Know. Love. Serve. Impact Eternity, and we fully believe that our children even at this young age can learn how to treat the opposite sex with total respect and honor. Thanks for this post Cindy, it was a good reminder that there is a sweet Mom on the other side of a young man.

  8. Well said. Darn, we sure have a LOT of responsibility as parents huh? I sure hope my little girl grows up and marries a strapping man like a beall man ๐Ÿ˜‰

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