My friend, Christi, requests my thoughts on friendships in ministry. Whew, that’s a tough one. At least it can be. Chris and I have spent nearly our entire marriage “in the ministry”. In the early years of our married life, we seemed to have more friends apart from each other. I had friends, he had friends and then we had couple friends. We spent a lot of time with these people. Enter children and everything changes. Christi, I understand the desire to want to hibernate. You guys are giving of yourselves daily and just need to have some time to veg out and not be “on”. But since you both miss the friendships that might have been there in different seasons of your marriage and ministry, I would say BE INTENTIONAL. Ask God to lead you to people with whom you can trust your heart. Being in ministry means that you are usually in the spotlight in some form or fashion. Many would like to get close to you because of your role and not who you are. When you find those people who love you and appreciate you for who you are, be intentional. Invite them over. And not just once. Make it a habit. Before you know it, you’ll become close confidants. We have some awesome neighbors in our new neighborhood. We spend quite a bit of time sittin’ on the back porch with these folks while we
make encourage the kids to have relay races to tire them out before bed so that they can get the necessary exercise they need for the day. This is relaxing for us because we enjoy their company.
There are also other friends that have been in our lives for years so we trust them. We trust them with our fears, concerns and hurts. Some of these friends were there before we were in the ministry. They knew us when…
God blesses us with friendships on this earth. I am thankful to have so many. But I am thankful that they are different. I have certain friends that are great to laugh with, some that are great to empathize with and still others who are not intimidated to get in my face.
Find trustworthy folks who will take holding your heart in their hands very seriously.
Hope that helps, friend.