How does one have an emotional relationship with the opposite sex when he/she is married? I’ve been asked that in some form or fashion by plenty of people. And I’ve got to tell you. It’s tricky. There will be people in your life besides your spouse for whom you care. I have many people like that. The thing you have to pay attention to is where your feelings are heading. There are some men whom I dearly love. I treasure them as if they were brothers. I encourage them and do my best to lift them up. However, there are limits to these emotional relationships. For example, if I am emailing another man to tell him something nice or to encourage him, I will almost always mention my husband. I might say, “Chris and I are so proud of you” or “You have blessed Chris and me and we appreciate you so much.” I also make sure that I don’t tell another man something that Chris doesn’t already know. Chris is the first person I share my heart with and vice versa. I am very guarded with my heart. If I share something with another man, say in my life group, it’s fairly vague. I would never cry on another man’s shoulder. It’s not appropriate, in my opinion. That is a recipe for disaster. I tend to be a little on the naive side. (Don’t I, Mother?) As I was writing this I found myself saying, “None of my readers would ever have inappropriate relationships with someone of the opposite sex who is not their spouse.” Very quickly, I was reminded of the fallen and depraved world in which we live. And honestly? I guess it doesn’t have to be someone of the opposite sex, now does it. Fallen and depraved indeed. If you have an inappropriate relationship with someone other than your spouse, you need to end it. For the sake of your marriage. If you have a good, healthy way to have relationships outside of your marriage, please share your ideas and advice with the rest of us.