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Defending Yourself

In case you didn’t know, I’m a huge fan of American Idol.  Yeah, yeah, I know, it has the word Idol in it and it’s all about fame and fortune and such.  Blah, blah, blah.  To me, it’s like a gigantic talent show of singers and I love me some sangin’. I’m just sayin’. This year the three judges of the show have been joined by a fourth.  Kara DioGuardi made her debut this season.  The producers of the show did their best to give her resume to the American public in hopes that she’d win their approval.  I think she’s a good addition.  She isn’t afraid to tell the truth but isn’t hateful in her manner of doing it.  She also happens to know her stuff. But in one particular audition, with a gal referred known as “Bikini Girl”, Kara got offended.  And because of that offense, she started to sing in front of the contestant and the other judges to prove that the statement made about her was indeed erroneous. And at that moment, it dawned on me. Sometimes I do that.  Sometimes I feel like I need to defend myself to others.  I’ve let people’s opinions and thoughts about me affect me negatively. What I found so sad about the incident with Ms. DioGuardi is that her resume clearly speaks for itself.  She’s written hundreds of songs, won awards and even worked with some of the biggest stars out there.  Not to mention, she really can sing! But she defended herself anyway to a girl who couldn’t sing to save her life. I’m learning to be comfortable in my own skin as I age.  I’m learning that I have gifts, talents and other things about me that are good that people just might not agree with. Or even like, for that matter. And I just have to learn to live with it.

16 thoughts on “Defending Yourself”

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  2. I’m better at this than I used to be. Of course, if you want my resume, I’ll give it to you. I’m just sayin’.

  3. Great post. I will totally be thinking about this all day. And hopefully next time I feel I need to showcase myself!

  4. “I’m not out to win a popularity contest with you” –

    That would have been from my mom to myself in the younger, more formative years….

  5. “I’m learning that I have gifts, talents and other things about me that are good that people just might not agree with. Or even like, for that matter.”

    This is GOOD. And a lesson I’ve been learning a LOT lately. In a sense, it’s recognizing that God has blessed me with gifts and talents…and since they are from HIM, they aren’t really MINE to brag about or defend anyway. 🙂

  6. I love American Idol too. And no, it is NOT my idol. 😉 But I am like you… I love singing, and shows with singing.

    Now that I got that out… I totally agree. I always feel I have to defend myself for my looks, my thoughts, etc. I don’t know if or when I will ever be completely comfortable with myself. But it would be nice to feel a little more like I am a sane person with worthwhile thoughts. And that I am sorta pretty. ;-P

  7. I have been learning this BIG lately! I haven’t worked in a long time and now that I’m working I feel the need to defend myself for things that really are out of my control. I’m trying to let my work speak for itself and so far it has. Its my responsibility to do the best job I can do with the talents God has given me. And that should be enough!

  8. Very interesting post. And no, I’m not a fan of American Idol – never really have been. No reason really…. just never got into it. See, there’s this journey I’m on, and it’s called self-discovery. I was pushed into a positon of finding out who I am… who I really am and who God wants me to be. I so badly want the approval of the man I love, but right now he’s not willing to share this journey with me. So, I go it alone. But, I’m not really alone. God is with me, not in the passenger seat – but driving. I also get to share it with some spectacular friends that have known where I came from – and are watching a flower bloom. I’m not bragging, I’m citing the words of one friend in particular. “This Journey is my Own” (Artist, Sara Groves) Thank you for putting yourself out there and blooming along with the rest of us.

  9. Once again, something I needed to hear. Thanks! I went through a hurtful situation several years ago that involved something like this. Even to this day, I still doubt my God given abilities because of things that happened back then. It’s getting better and I am finally getting back to the realization that God doesn’t make mistakes when He gives us what He gives us. 🙂

  10. First of all, what in the world is that first comment up there?

    Secondly, I remember that night she did that, bummer.

    Third, I totally can be like that, or at least I feel like that. i might not actually bust out in song or start rambling all the Bible knowledge I have, but it doesn’t mean I’m not feelin’ it. blast.

  11. i do this too from time to time. but its usually with people i feel inferior to. ick. i just said that.

    i do like the new judge. and compared to paula, i like that i dont get nervous each time kara opens her mouth.

  12. If I am understanding the analogy in this: I do this alot.

    As a stutterer and someone who is SO SO protective of it, I defend myself from approaching others on real hard subjects like confrontation or evangelism or leading a bible study because before I even get to the starting point I quit or tear myself down. Then I defend myself with some sob story of what lot in life God gave me. ALTHOUGH… I’m an overcomer and Ican do it.

    Then… (here’s the clincher) When Jimbob goes up there and stutters and stammers, I’m holding his hand defending him until he completes it.

    Go figure.

  13. i’ve said before that i feel like my whole life is an apology for being me. one outflow of that is the constant need i feel to defend myself. although i usually don’t because i’m too hesitant to speak up. but i want to.

    mostly i just want to be understood.

  14. well, i didn’t know kara could sing until she did that…wow!

    until this post, i didn’t go to her site – she’s got talent.

    yes, i posted on this “defending myself.” i have a lot of opportunity to do it, but it just leads to strife.

    love,
    sheri

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