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Cindy Is (Im)Patient, Cindy Is (Un)Kind…

If you’ve been to many weddings, there is a good chance you’ve heard 1 Corinthians 13:4-7 referred to as attributes that husbands and wives should employ on their marriage journey.  In fact, on January 9, 1993, you might have heard the following preached at Chris’ and my wedding:
Chris is patient, Cindy is kind. Chris does not envy, Cindy does not boast, Chris is not proud. Cindy is not rude, Chris is not self‑seeking, Cindy is not easily angered, Chris keeps no record of wrongs. Chris and Cindy do not delight in evil but rejoice with the truth. They always protect, always trust, always hope, always persevere.
Um, right.  That’s us.  All the time. Actually, we have not lived up to that declaration as we should have for our nearly 17 years of marriage.  We have, however, come a long way and have improved as we’ve gone through tumultuous seasons and learned to love one another above ourselves. As I was reading Francis Chan’s Crazy Love recently, he mentioned this.   He even said that by the time he finished inserting his name he felt like a liar!  I bet you can identify with that because we have all failed, at some point or another, to love people well.  Whether it’s our spouse, our children, our parents, our siblings or our friends. My challenge after reading this was to really focus on loving those around me.  It has been incredibly convicting but yet also very simple at the same time.  Because if I just love people they way God intends me to, so many other issues I struggle with will decrease. So my prayer is that I am patient, kind, not envious, but thankful, not boastful or proud, but humble.  I don’t want to be rude or selfish and I don’t want my temper to get the best of me.  I want to forgive and move on and rejoice when the truth is told.  I want to protect those I love, trust and not be suspicious of everyone’s motives, walk in hope and persevere even when, especially when it’s painful.

8 thoughts on “Cindy Is (Im)Patient, Cindy Is (Un)Kind…”

  1. thanks for sharing…especially the prayer part. I’m gonna “borrow” that one for myself. good stuff

  2. Cindy,

    This is awesome and I can relate very much to your post about not meeting up to those but being better than you used to by the grace of God!

    I also wanted to thankyou for the prayer for gave me the other day! I put the word healing and it was for my dad, but didn’t want to surpass the one word 🙂 so thankyou for the prayer for my dad!!! That was so awesome and I see your heart changing and loving others already!

    love and blessings to you

  3. CindyB, You were right on time again, especiallly the prayer. I love the way that God works through you to help us. I needed to hear this tonight! I’m going to reread it—now. Amen, Barbara

  4. Also just finished Crazy Love, but my fav way to read this passage with my name in it is like this: God is patient with Brenda. God is kind to Brenda. Because God is love. And because He loves me, then I am free to love. Thanks for sharing.

  5. Your words were very inspirational. I just found your website today and have been reading through the different titles and this one spoke to me the most. I have been holding on to past hurts from a former mate and I can’t let them go. I love him so very much but for some issues he and I are dealing with I had to leave the relationship.
    In learning to forgive the past I realize I need to lay it on the alter and let God work deep within me to resolve all he needs to resolve and look towards a brighter tomorrow.

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