Motherhood

Building A Man

Have you ever wondered just how much more you could take? I mean, have there been times in your life when everything just seemed to keep going wrong and you couldn’t catch a break? I believe Murphy stated that, “Whatever can go wrong, will go wrong.” I have often fallen into that thought pattern as I am attempting to raise two young boys. Let me explain. If it’s possible to undo something that needs to stay done, my youngest son can do it. In fact, he’s pretty darn good at unlocking things that should stay locked, dumping things that shouldn’t be dumped, submerging things that should stay dry and well, you get the picture. One afternoon he escaped out the garage door. Within a minute of his sneaky getaway, I found him. And while I was relieved to see that he was alive when I laid eyes on him, my heart sank. He’d successfully dumped a half a bottle of Dawn dishwashing liquid into our pond. No big deal, right? Wrong. We have a circulating pump in our pond. Just like you don’t add soap to a jacuzzi bath tub, you don’t add it to a pond with a circulating pump either. Bubbles were everywhere. And when I say everywhere, I tell you no lie. My son was thrilled at his masterpiece and was screaming, “Bubbles, bubbles, bubbles! Wook at da bubbles, Mommy!” Oh, I was looking alright. In fact, there were so many bubbles that our pump burned up and our fish died. That particular day things just seemed to go awry with the culmination of the “bubbles in the pond.” I couldn’t catch a break if I’d had baseball training. It was just one of those days. My husband immediately came home from work to help me salvage this disaster. No such luck. As I was scooping 15 lifeless fish bodies from our drained pond, I tried to hide my tears. However, the mascara lines that were streaming down my cheeks had to be a dead giveaway. Chris looked up at me with a half grin on his face and asked, “What’s the matter?” “I don’t even know why God gave me children,” I pouted in the most grown-up way possible. He tried to hide his smile and comfort me at the same time. He assured me that I’d been created to be the mother of our sons and that I was doing a good job. I appreciated his encouragement, but didn’t know if I was convinced by his kind words. I was growing weary in my mothering role. I imagine you’ve felt similar feelings before. Tell me, what is it that causes you to feel the way I did? It may not be parenting for you. Maybe it’s attempting to get along with someone and you don’t see much improvement. Or it could be that you are searching for a job that will bring you closer to your goals in life and you just can’t seem to land one. It’s possible that you’ve been praying for someone’s salvation for years and you see no change whatsoever. Of course it could be that you long for someone to spend your life with and you are still waiting for Mr. or Mrs. Right. Whatever it is that you desire to see happen, don’t give up. The Bible promises: “Let us not become weary in doing good, for at the proper time we will reap a harvest if we do not give up.” Galatians 6:9 (NIV) And trust me when I say that the reward will be so much sweeter when you wait instead of settling for 2nd best. It might be easier to give up on mending a relationship or staying in a dead-end job or resigning your prayers for a loved one or choosing a mate just to alleviate your loneliness. Those are temporary remedies to problems that will still be there the next day. While I don’t always enjoy the daily monotony of motherhood, I choose to keep my eye on the prize. And the prize for me is to see two young boys turn into Godly men who will change the part of the world in which they live. So, when I answer the same question ten times, pick up the same dirty clothes, prepare the same frozen pizza, read the same book, watch the same Blue’s Clues episode, and countless other daily tasks, I will remember that pressing on in these tedious tasks will bring about great things in the lives of my sons. After all, I’m building a man. Actually, two, to be exact.

24 thoughts on “Building A Man”

  1. What a great verse…Galations 6:9. For me it was a job, a job as a worship leader that would never come. Or at least I thought it never would. I worked in banking for six years knowing that God had bigger plans for me and every year I got more and more discouraged that I couldn’t find a place to lead worship full time. I even tried for a position at a church that I knew wasn’t a fit but wanted it so bad that I didn’t care. Luckily God had other plans and didn’t allow me to make what would have been a huge mistake. What I had to understand was that everything happens in God’s timing not mine, and that’s a really hard lesson. One that I’m usually learning often. Great post Cindy.

  2. Not sure what the name is, or who sings it, but there’s a song with the words, “the waiting is the hardest part.” Sometimes, the only thing I can hold onto is my faith because the patience has worn away. Thanks for sharing your frustrations. We all have them. While I take no comfort in someone else’s misery, it’s nice to know I’m not the only one who questions the why’s and when’s of this world. The great part about sharing is the reinforcement we give one another that, “this too shall pass.”

  3. thanks for sharing. i was just asking God for a LOT more patience concern our living situation. Mike and i have been looking for a house since last fall and everytime we think we found one, it falls through. we are on top of each other here, but i know God has us here for a reason. ( i just do not know the reason) – it gets hard because i feel like i can not live out the way God has called me to live until we move- i know that it is a lie- but it is still difficult to navigate 2 people in less than 500 sq ft. – but we are debt free so i have to remember all that God has done.(which at times can be easy for me to forget) thanks for writing and listening to me vent…. have a great day!!

  4. Hi Cindy!

    Thanks for stopping by my blog and commenting. I am so glad the information was helpful to you. Girl, if God has laid a message on your heart, KEEP SHARING IT! I encourage you to press on and know that He has it all in the palm of His very capable hand. If I didn’t believe that before my last book contract (I did, but for illustration sake :)), I certainly do now. As my editor once said to me in the midst of the very frustrating process, “Lisa, God is the great orchestrator of all.” It was a good word to remind me of this truth in the midst of all my worrying about the “what ifs…” Rest in that truth today!

    On another note, I saw in your profile that you live in Oklahoma but lived most of your life in Texas. I am a Texas girl, too! And…I lived for a time in Oklahoma. Love both of those places! I’m curious as to where in Texas you lived! Besides being born in Houston, I also lived in Lake Jackson and Dallas. And my dad pastored a church in Oklahoma in the 70s.

    Visit me again anytime! And please keep me posted on your journey.
    Lisa 🙂

  5. Shelley – Isn’t God good to give us what we need?
    Chris – I’m so glad you didn’t get that other job. I wouldn’t have been able to have you lead me in worship at the December Event! God has gifted you, bruthah!
    Hope – As the Bible says, “And it came to pass.” Thank God it didn’t say, “And it came to stay.” 🙂
    Misti – Vent anytime 🙂
    Libby – Ahh, gee, shucks. As always, glad to have you here.
    Lisa, – I receive all of that!!!!

  6. Cindy,
    You have hit this one out of the ballpark. It is a home run! I know as a mother I have days that I truly wonder why the Lord chose me to parent four children. I get so frustrated at times and yet I am always reminded of God’s plan and how He put our little family together not for us to always have perfect peace, quiet, and constant fulfillment but to bring Him glory in all things, even the mundane things of life.

    I have to constantly remind myself, even though I grow weary in the journey, there are always chances to refresh, renew, and rejuvenate. We may be in the midst of a pruning from the Master Gardner but once He is through, we have a renewed growth, purpose, and hope for the future. I know I grow weary of the constant feelings you describe. I think it is also indicative of the world we live in and the culture that permeates everything. I think we sometimes forget that we are in a war and many days we may not put on the Armor to protect us as we enter this lost and dying world.

    In my Bible I have documented a few verses in Hebrews 6 that I felt the Lord had given to me on waiting and fulfilling His promises to His people. I remember distinctly the Lord speaking to my heart during a worship service and sitting down to write in the margin of my Bible by this verse. As the years wore on I would be drawn back to that page and would document the date and if His promise had been fulfilled or even how my contentment level was at the time. Was I waiting well? It is amazing to look at it now. There are entries where I cry out to the Lord, “I am exhausted with waiting! Where is the fulfillment of your promise?”

    The next to last paragraph is awesome. I love it because I have seen this happen over and over again where people settled for 2nd best. They are tired of raising their children alone, or feel their clock ticking and marry the first one that comes along, or are desperate for a job and forsake ethics/integrity over need. But as you reminded us all these remedies are temporary. I CLUNG to Galatians 6:9 for over ten years. I know I am reaping the harvest now and my purpose is to bring up these three young men and young lady to desire to know God more intimately and deeply and to live a life sold out to Christ.

    As always you have blessed me today!
    Praising Him in ALL things,
    Vickie@PurusingSimplicity

  7. Wow! Thank you for that encouragment today, I really needed it. I have been working so hard on my heart this year and you know who is working hard on me too.

  8. oh you don’t know just how much I needed that this morning!! I selfishly decided to take a break from the laundry (which I’m trying to re-dry to get the wrinkles out of) to read my fav-o-rite blog and this is the post that I came to. I was having my own little pitty party invisioning other moms in their clean houses or at the spa while I drudge through another day. Boy did you give me the wake up call that I needed today!! thanks, cindy!!!

  9. You could have broken up the paragraphs into separate post and each of them would be homeruns on their own.

    Your wrote:
    “And trust me when I say that the reward will be so much sweeter when you wait instead of settling for 2nd best. It might be easier to give up on mending a relationship or staying in a dead-end job or resigning your prayers for a loved one or choosing a mate just to alleviate your loneliness.”

    Time and time again, I remain obedient to the voice of God. Sure, I have desires of my heart and He knows them well. I want one thing and God says either, “Wait for it” or “use my wisdom to rethink what you want”. I wait and then He delivers solutions that destroys every obstacle in my way.

    I finally figured out that I shouldn’t even waste any energy in being anxious or worrying about what I want. If my portion doesn’t come from Him, then why would I even want it?

  10. I LOVE this!!!! My next blog is going to be about my wild boys…and how I am choosing to embrace their wildness 🙂 It is inspired by our McDs play date 🙂 You are a WONDERFUL mommy…and your boys will grow up to be men after God’s heart because of it!

  11. What a well-written article with a theme with which all mothers can identify! Thanks for reminding us of important scripture to help us to keep on keepin’ on!

  12. Great post. One of the best I’ve read so far. Check out a little song I wrote the words for called “My Little Man”. It is an old post. You may relate.

  13. Even with all your imperfections and days of short tempers, YOU are the best mom for your kids. God chose YOU. He must have alot of confidence in who He can and will be in and through you.

    You are His delight!

    Blessings,
    Julie

  14. Love the story and the verse you highlighted! It is so easy to weary of well doing, love that you choose to focus on the prize!

    Blessings,
    Miss Sandy

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