That’s me, you understand. (tic) NOTE: New little somethin’ in my writing. When you see (tic) it means “tongue in cheek”. This denotes PURE DEE sarcasm. My precious, darling friend, Nicole, wanted to know about being married to a pastor and looking so hot after two kids in my 30’s. First off, let’s address me being hot. The child needs an eye exam because she is the only one who refers to me as “hot”. Except the Hubby the other day after I got my new hairdo. That was nice. It pays to be blonde. Secondly, being married to a pastor is wonderfully terrible. I didn’t marry a pastor. We both were called into full-time vocational ministry shortly after we moved to San Antonio in 1994. In my opinion, both husband and wife are called. Ask any pastor and he will tell you that his wife is JUST AS vital, if not more so, to his role than he is. (This is the same for a woman pastor and her husband.) Over the years a lot of “us” has been sacrificed. While a pastor may not do as much physical work as some other occupations, the mental and emotional strength and tenacity needed to pour into people is a daunting task. But we have found it’s worth it. Changed lives are worth it. God makes up for the rest and restores what needs to be restored. If you are married to a pastor or someone in another full-time vocational role, be the support that your spouse needs. (Oh heck, who am I kidding? This could apply to anyone who is married.) When unexpected meetings or counseling sessions or added work happens…because it will…don’t panic and don’t, for the love, put extra pressure on your spouse when he/she can’t do anything about it. On that note, if you feel that you and your family are being neglected because of the ministry, get on your knees and pray BEFORE you confront. It is not your job to convict your husband. It is the job of the Holy Spirit. And then, in love and only in love, share your heart and ask what he thinks. Tough stuff? I’ve learned a lot over 13 + years in ministry. But still have so many more miles to go.