Marriage Motherhood

3 O’clock Feedings & Screaming Toddlers

She was mesmerized by him. Just the mere thought of him as she went about her daily routine made her stomach do somersaults.  She could hardly wait until the end of the day so that she could gaze into his dreamy, green eyes. He couldn’t believe that God created such a gorgeous creature for him to love.  She was more that he’d ever dreamed about and quite frankly, he found himself wondering if he was, indeed, in a dream. He was not. Not only did they have a strong spiritual connection because of their faith in Christ, but the physical chemistry was, well, let’s just say, not lacking.  And on to the altar they went. Their first several months together were spectacular.  They rarely disagreed.  They couldn’t keep their hands off each other. They went to nice dinners and movies.  They took trips and went to concerts.  They did whatever they wanted. People envied them and saw how connected they were as a couple. It was sexy.  They were sexy. But they also couldn’t wait for their future together which included adding children to the mix. So, they added children to the mix. And then it began to get a little complicated. She wasn’t preoccupied with her husband as much.  He began to wonder if they’d ever have a moment alone.  She was frustrated and sleep-deprived.  He felt unappreciated. And this was anything but sexy. I hear stories like this often from couples.  They want to know where the flame went and how they get it back.  They want to know if this is how it will always be.  And I assure them it’s just part of life.  It’s part of becoming parents.  And that children are blessings from God. But these precious, little blessings take a large portion of our time to care for and protect.  They zap our energy and cause us to fall into bed at night only to be awoken by some cries in a few hours because a tummy is empty once again. Friends, this is where true love happens.  This is where the whole vows to one another kick in.  It’s incredibly easy to love your husband or wife whenever things are wonderful.  When the stars are all lined up.  It’s an entirely different thing to love one another when you’ve got a toddler who is screaming his head off as you make an attempt to have a family lunch date on a Saturday afternoon. If you are there, here, in this place, just know that you won’t always be here.  Do your best to enjoy the early morning times with your child.  Steal moments with your husband or wife throughout the day and let them know that you are still happy you are married and that you wouldn’t change a minute of your current, chaotic world. Because what you are making is called memories. Even screaming toddlers crying in restaurants are memories.

7 thoughts on “3 O’clock Feedings & Screaming Toddlers”

  1. Thank you! I needed to hear this this morning! I have a 10 month old and I am 8 months pregnant with number two! Sometimes I wish I could just speed through all the sleepless nights and dirty diapers…then I am reminded to slow down and enjoy every minute because this season of my life is so special and it won’t last long! I am also reminded to thank the Lord for giving me such and amazing husband who loves me and my boys so much! Thanks Cindy for your encouragement!

  2. Yes, LORD! Thank You for the times in my life with a child at home. Thank You for being there to see me through the rough and tumbly times. Thank You for still being here. In Jesus’ name, amen.

  3. cindy! i have yet to have the pleasure of having kids or being married for that sake as of yet but i found it encouraging none the less. they are all simply seasons. each meant to bring something else out of us.

  4. WOW! i am right smack in the middle of this one! a precious, wonderful, ENERGETIC, demanding three year old sure does change life. makes it so hard to sneak in quality times to work on rebuilding this marriage. it certainly feels like this phase will never end. but then i remember how incredibly FAST his first three years went in some ways.
    {SIGH!} guess it’s time to keep treasuring the moments we have and hang on tight for this roller coaster! thanks for the reminder.

  5. Thanks for sharing Cindy! Right now as I read this, I have a toddler running around the house, three at the table making mischeif and a crawling baby banging all my cupboards in the kitchen…. doesn’t sound romantic to many, but My husband and I have learned to cast longing stares. and beautiful smiles amongst the chaos and it makes it all better. I think you are so right, THIS IS REALLY LIVING… XX

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