- I’ve learned that the best thing to say to someone after they’ve lost someone is I’m sorry. That’s it.
- I’ve learned that you will be laughing one moment and in tears the next.
- I’ve learned that allowing someone to talk about his/her loss brings healing. Let them tell you stories about their Uncle Rick. It won’t mean much to you. It’ll mean the world to them.
- I’ve learned that it’s okay to cry and that if you won’t stop the tears when they need to fall, they will eventually stop themselves.
- I’ve learned that you don’t lose a person on the day of his/her death you lose this person throughout your life when he/she is not present for momentous occasions.
- I’ve also learned that there are days when you think you’ve forgotten the person you’ve lost.
I was 19 years old and a freshman in college. I remember it like it was yesterday. I had driven home from class that afternoon instead of driving to Austin to see my dad in the hospital. He’d spent 150 days in the hospital during the previous eight months due to his battle with Leukemia. The doctors told us that it wouldn’t be long. The cancer was gone due to the chemotherapy but because his immune system was weak, infections were taking over his body. He had nothing to fight them. I shouldn’t have been surprised when the call came but I was. As if I wasn’t expecting it. All I know is that you can try to anticipate death but when you hear the words of finality, it can send you over the edge. Even if you think you’re prepared. My daddy had just died. Gone to be with Jesus. He was no longer suffering. I’ve learned a lot of things about grief over the years. Losing my dad was just the first loss I experienced that would soon be followed by many more close to me.