Mentoring

What Do You Say When…

Someone is hurting and you have no idea what they are going through? We’ve all been there at some point in our lives. We have a friend who is thrown into an unwanted situation and we have no idea how to respond.  It could be… the death of a child or the loss of a parent or the news that someone has cancer or the break-up of a marriage. While it’s true that going through difficult times helps you help others when they go through their own difficult times, you don’t have to go through something to be a blessing to someone who is in pain. Just the other day, I had a woman who was struggling with something that I have never had to deal with. I couldn’t identify with her or tell her I knew what she was going through, so I just listened. And I listened. And I listened some more. Then, I told her that I don’t know what she is feeling and that I can only imagine how hard it is. I empathized with her. I did my best to encourage her to ask God what He wanted her to learn from this because there are many lessons in life we must learn in order to redeem some of the suffering we endure. And I think she appreciated my words even though I didn’t get her situation. The next time someone near you is hurting, try just listening to them as they share their heart. You don’t have all of the answers and probably shouldn’t. But you know the One who does. So point them to Him.

6 thoughts on “What Do You Say When…”

  1. Listening is such a gift. Much appreciated and somewhat rare. No need for answers as it is usually best to discover those ourselves. But a Listener is a treasure!

  2. Listening. The best gift. Thank you, Cindy. I hope you continue to blog–daily is probably too much with all you have going on, but I do love your perspectives. So often you give me something to think about, or laugh about, or even cry about. I thank you.

  3. Such great wisdom in this post. I have often been in the situation where i truly dont know what to say or how to respond. But our Savior does know, so i will point them to Him. What could be better than that??? 🙂

  4. I remember the day you did that for me over 3 years ago and I have never been the same.
    Love you mama Cindy!!! Even when you had no idea what to say you listened, you held me, you LOVED! That really is what makes the difference…your CARE is expressed through the listening & you’ve become quite skilled at it.

  5. I have found that when I’m speaking to someone who is listening to me (besides myself lol) …really listening to me without trying to respond….I usually end up figuring it out on my own (through the whisper of the Holy Spirit within) and I’m able to praise God for that! I love when that happens to me. And nothing another person said would be even half as good anyways since we are all imperfect beings…God knows and He knows best!

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