Marriage

Life After Porn – Part 1

The Day Everything Changed

The day was Tuesday. February 19, 2002, to be exact. Although my husband, Chris, had completed six weeks as the new worship pastor at our church in Edmond, Oklahoma, we’d only spent three nights in our new home. Unexpectedly, he walked through the front door at 9 somethin’ in the morning. Attempting to inch my way through a plethora of boxes, I looked up and saw the face of the man I’d loved for nearly 10 years. And the man who was soon to break my heart. Chris walked toward me and asked if we could talk. The look on his face said enough. Something was wrong. After getting our son, Noah, settled watching a Blue’s Clues video, Chris motioned for me to sit on the newly purchased sofa that had arrived just 24 hours before as we were beginning our new life in a new town. My heart began to palpitate as the next several minutes consisted of him confessing to numerous affairs with numerous women from numerous places. I heard the cracking of my heart as he spoke and felt the devastation setting in almost immediately. As if that information was not enough to handle, he also informed me that one of the women was pregnant and he was pretty sure the baby was his child. You have got to be kidding me.   He was not.

11 thoughts on “Life After Porn – Part 1”

  1. I know your story well. But it encourages me everytime I read it. I found out July, 2007 that my husband of 32 years had been having an affair for at least 6 years with a volunteer worker at the church of which he was the pastor. We are still trying to work things out, I don’t know if that is possible, but your story gives me hope!

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