The Proverbs 31 Woman Would Have Vacuumed Her Pool

pool girlI haven’t always enjoyed vacuuming the swimming pool. And I don’t always do it. My husband does it better than me, but when he’s busy, I do it. Or when he’s tired and I want to bless him, I do it. But I don’t mind it actually. It’s actually therapeutic for me to see the bottom of the pool clean because I did it. And I’m pretty sure the Proverbs 31 woman would have not hired a pool boy to do her vacuuming. Not that I’m comparing myself to her by any means, but seriously, think about it. Not only is she worth far more than rubies, but her husband has full confidence in her. And y’all, every single day she brings him good. Not a single bit of harm on any day of the week. Like not even when she has PMS or her when her iPhone falls in the toilet or when she leaves for a dinner and her tire is flat. In addition to being pretty much spot on emotionally and relationally, she also did practical things that many of us do every day. She was a:
  • Handyman (v. 13)
  • Chef (v. 15)
  • Realtor (v. 16)
  • Winemaker (v. 16)
  • Weight lifter (v. 17)
  • Negotiator (v. 18)
  • Seamstress (v. 19)
  • Humanitarian (v. 20)
  • Decorator (v. 22)
  • Fashion designer (v. 22)
  • Saleswoman (v. 24)
  • Comedian (v. 25)
  • Counselor (v. 26)
  • Manager (v. 27)
  • Hard worker (v. 27)
  • Great mother (v. 28)
  • Cherished wife (v. 28)
That’s quite a woman. Like basically this lady could easily sing “I’m Every Woman” just like Whitney Houston did. So, I stand by my statement above. I think she would have vacuumed her own swimming pool. (Because y’all know she would have had one with all the stuff she did for her man and her children and the townspeople. Oh yes she would.) At least that’s how I see it.  

The Devil Made You Do It My BEEP

People watching is a hobby of mine. Don’t let that stir a panic in you.  I’m not a weirdo or a stalker.  I just enjoy the human race.  What they say, what they don’t say, the color of their eyes, the length of their hair, how confident they are by the way they carry themselves, how nervous they are because they lack said confidence. Not only do I like do sit and watch, I also like to sit and listen.  I’ve grown a lot in my 30’s.  So much so that instead of monopolizing a conversation, I actually enjoy listening to others more.  No matter their age, demographic or intellect.  I believe I can learn something from everyone…good or bad.  In all of this, one of the things that I’ve learned about people is that some people are broken and some people are not.  Allow me to unpack this for you. Broken people don’t focus on the sins and issues of others.  No, they are so aware of their need for a Savior that they work on themselves.  Broken people don’t demand their rights.  No, they often lay them down.  Broken people don’t dodge responsibility for their actions.  No, they are fully willing to accept the consequences of their sin. I’ve heard more stories than I care to relate to you about people who can’t or won’t take responsibility for what they’ve done.  They play the blame game and run like h*** until they are far from the situation.  If you’ve fallen into sin, own it.  Even if you feel like you did something because of someone or because that someone didn’t meet your needs. Newsflash:  You sinned.  You made the choice to sin.  You need to make it right.  No matter what anyone else did first.  You are still responsible for you! Period. Any questions?

Is Viewing Porn Adultery?

Yes. (That direct enough for you?)
“You have heard that it was said, ‘You shall not commit adultery.’ But I say to you that everyone who looks at a woman with lustful intent has already committed adultery with her in his heart. Matthew 5:27-28
I was asked recently by a woman this question:
Should I stay married to man who is addicted to porn and won’t get help?
You will get a different answer depending on whom you ask. Many will say yes and many will say no. They’ll say yes because according to the verse above, looking at pornography is “committing adultery in the heart”. But, many will say no, because the actual physical “act” of sexual intercourse has not happened. What do I say? I believe that when your spouse is living steeped in a sin like pornography, alcoholism, drug addiction and others that you have to first and foremost pray for them. That’s our best line of defense. Secondly, I believe that if you don’t say anything, you are enabling them to remain in that lifestyle. So, my advice in a situation like this is to confront your spouse in love, state that you will not stay in this toxic situation and that they need to seek help. If nothing changes and you choose to separate, do so with the intentions to reconcile. That doesn’t mean you will and that your marriage will be saved, but I believe that separation is valid and acceptable with the intent to see the marriage restored. This is simply my opinion based upon my knowledge of the Word, my intimate relationship with Jesus and my personal experiences. Ultimately, when making a decision, you must go before the Lord and ask Him what He is calling YOU to do. You have to live with your decision and it’s consequences.