The Day Everything Changed

The day was Tuesday. February 19, 2002, to be exact. Although my husband, Chris, had completed six weeks as the new worship pastor at our church in Edmond, Oklahoma, we’d only spent three nights in our new home. Unexpectedly, he walked through the front door at 9 somethin’ in the morning. Attempting to inch my way through a plethora of boxes, I looked up and saw the face of the man I’d loved for nearly 10 years. And the man who was soon to break my heart. Chris walked toward me and asked if we could talk. The look on his face said enough. Something was wrong.

After getting our son, Noah, settled watching a Blue’s Clues video, Chris motioned for me to sit on the newly purchased sofa that had arrived just 24 hours before as we were beginning our new life in a new town. My heart began to palpitate as the next several minutes consisted of him confessing to numerous affairs with numerous women from numerous places. I heard the cracking of my heart as he spoke and felt the devastation setting in almost immediately. As if that information was not enough to handle, he also informed me that one of the women was pregnant and he was pretty sure the baby was his child.

You have got to be kidding me.   He was not.

  1. misti on Monday 10, 2008

    tear… down my check as i read this… and i know the story

  2. Andi Hawkins on Monday 10, 2008

    Its still hurts so bad to hear.

    God is so good.

  3. Dusty on Monday 10, 2008

    Thank you for sharing this again. I have no doubt that someone’s life will be changed this week.

  4. anon on Monday 10, 2008

    My heart stopped and I lost my breath as I read this. I know what you are going through.

  5. Jennifer Griffin on Monday 10, 2008

    I cannot imagine…..I know that God will be glorified in this…lives will be changed by your testimony.

  6. Kay on Monday 10, 2008

    I know your story well. But it encourages me everytime I read it. I found out July, 2007 that my husband of 32 years had been having an affair for at least 6 years with a volunteer worker at the church of which he was the pastor. We are still trying to work things out, I don’t know if that is possible, but your story gives me hope!

  7. tam on Monday 10, 2008

    i am so glad youre sharing this…

    thank you.

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  9. suz on Monday 10, 2008

    Unless you have been thru it-you cannot understand the pain.

  10. alece on Monday 10, 2008

    i always find myself holding my breath as i read parts of your story. reading this post was no exception.

  11. mandythompson on Monday 10, 2008

    Finally had some time to read these.
    But I read them all backwards. 🙂 Whew.

    Reminds me… I need to finish your book! Love you.