There’s a gal I know named Nicole.
She’s a twenty-six year old doll, and is quite enamored with her husband, Tim. And rightly so. He is a cutie pitutie and a sweetheart if there ever was one. She talks so kindly about him always. In fact, she might as well put a cheerleading outfit on because she is indeed his biggest fan.
In my opinion, this is the way it should be done. Nicole has learned more about building up her man in her nearly seven years of marriage than most people do in a lifetime. And trust me, she is not the norm. It is so much more common to hear women tearing down their husbands and husbands tearing down their wives.
Ephesians 4:29 tells us,
“Do not let any unwholesome talk come out of your mouths, but only what is helpful for building others up according to their needs, that it may benefit those who listen.”
I’ve spent puh-LEN-tee of time around women. There are few things I enjoy more than just visiting with the gals…laughing, crying, talking, sitting. That is, until it gets to the place where the fun ends and the negativity begins. It is so easy for us to say things at the expense of another. And I still have no idea why this attitude is so contagious.
It’s time for us to become people who build up rather than tear down. Ignore the voices around you that drag you down and expect you to do the same to those around you. Be a light to those who are constantly satisfied with sitting in the dark.
If you are married, how well do you sweet-talk your spouse? If you are not married, do you sweet-talk other important folks in your life?
What are some things you can say TODAY to let your spouse and others close to you know that you think the world of them?
Give it a try. I think you’ll be pleasantly surprised.
(Feel free to leave your link in a comment if you At The Well gals blogged about this, too. I’m so not good at the technical side of things and after several attempts of Natalie coaching me through the whole Mr. Linky thingiemajig, I decided to call it quits.)