Is Viewing Porn Adultery?

Yes. (That direct enough for you?)
“You have heard that it was said, ‘You shall not commit adultery.’┬áBut I say to you that everyone who looks at a woman with lustful intent has already committed adultery with her in his heart. Matthew 5:27-28
I was asked recently by a woman this question:
Should I stay married to man who is addicted to porn and won’t get help?
You will get a different answer depending on whom you ask. Many will say yes and many will say no. They’ll say yes because according to the verse above, looking at pornography is “committing adultery in the heart”. But, many will say no, because the actual physical “act” of sexual intercourse has not happened. What do I say? I believe that when your spouse is living steeped in a sin like pornography, alcoholism, drug addiction and others that you have to first and foremost pray for them. That’s our best line of defense. Secondly, I believe that if you don’t say anything, you are enabling them to remain in that lifestyle. So, my advice in a situation like this is to confront your spouse in love, state that you will not stay in this toxic situation and that they need to seek help. If nothing changes and you choose to separate, do so with the intentions to reconcile. That doesn’t mean you will and that your marriage will be saved, but I believe that separation is valid and acceptable with the intent to see the marriage restored. This is simply my opinion based upon my knowledge of the Word, my intimate relationship with Jesus and my personal experiences. Ultimately, when making a decision, you must go before the Lord and ask Him what He is calling YOU to do. You have to live with your decision and it’s consequences.

5 thoughts on “Is Viewing Porn Adultery?

  1. Cindy, what loving and Godly advice. Thank you for posting this. I love how you support MARRIAGE but at the same time lovingly do not support people to continue to live in sin. Your blog turns me to God and His view, love, and advice every time I read. Thank you.

  2. I never ever thought of this because it was not a actual physical act, I never even thought of it as committing adultery in my heart but that makes sense. Puts it into a whole different perspective that makes one think more about it. Thanks for sharing the truth I pray God etches this out in my mind so I never forget.

  3. Yes! It absolutely is becauses it affects the heart. I would even go farther and say if you let the wheels roll while looking at a woman and give into lust in your mind, it has the same affect has porn. Very dangerous ground, as it cannot be done without affecting the way you love your wife. Most men never really get to love their wife the way she was intended to be loved. Very sad for her, but mostly for him. I have experienced the bondage of lust/porn and the freedom from it. If men only realized what was actually going on and the love they are missing out on, they would wage war against the one who is trying to destroy them.

    Ephesians 5:3 But amoung you there must not even be a HINT of sexual immorality, or any kind or impurity…

    If we only believed, we then could experience all of Jesus and all the blessings He has for us!!!!

    BJ

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