July 5, 2009 was my DDay. He sat me down in the living room of our dream home, told me that he had messed up and that he was going to be a father. I don’t have to tell you the flood of emotions that rushed me. I am surprised that I was able to keep my breath and not have to make a trip to the ER. The pain of the UTMOST betrayal then the pain of another woman giving my husband what I could not, but so desperately wanted to, sent me into a pit so deep I thought surely I would never come out of.Sara’s husband said he wanted to make it work. He stuck around for a while and pretended that he had ended the affair with the other woman. He had not. He lied to Sara all along the near 2-year period since everything was discovered. And after finding out that he was still in a relationship with the other woman, Sara filed for divorce on May 5, 2011. Sara’s story is most definitely heartbreaking. And that’s putting it mildly. She is now recently divorced. I hate even writing that. For her sake. I hate that her ex-husband was deceived and still lives in deception. But I love that Sara is now free to let God redeem her pain. She is free to grow in her walk with Christ. She is free to see God use her story in the lives of others. Sara is fiercely devoted to her Savior even in the midst of the most unspeakable pain. I’m proud to know Sara. I’d ask that you offer her some encouragement and hope in the comments below. And pray for her. God knows that even though her marriage has ended, her pain, in some ways, is just beginning.
The first time I got an email from Sara my heart bout near broke in half. As I began to read her story, I found out so much. Married in 1997, both were from strong, Christian families, they began ministering together at their church, both had awesome careers, both were financially savvy, both were attractive…they seemed to have it all. After five years of marriage, they decided that it was time to begin a family. But six years later and a diagnosis for Sara that she had “the problem”, there was still no baby. In 2008, their careers led them to a new state and a new home. But within a year, things began to decline between them. Sara had a hunch, but couldn’t put her finger on it. Here’s what Sara shares: