It’s My Story: Sara

The first time I got an email from Sara my heart bout near broke in half. As I began to read her story, I found out so much. Married in 1997, both were from strong, Christian families, they began ministering together at their church, both had awesome careers, both were financially savvy, both were attractive…they seemed to have it all. After five years of marriage, they decided that it was time to begin a family. But six years later and a diagnosis for Sara that she had “the problem”, there was still no baby. In 2008, their careers led them to a new state and a new home. But within a year, things began to decline between them. Sara had a hunch, but couldn’t put her finger on it. Here’s what Sara shares:
July 5, 2009 was my DDay.  He sat me down in the living room of our dream home, told me that he had messed up and that he was going to be a father.  I don’t have to tell you the flood of emotions that rushed me.  I am surprised that I was able to keep my breath and not have to make a trip to the ER. The pain of the UTMOST betrayal then the pain of another woman giving my husband what I could not, but so desperately wanted to, sent me into a pit so deep I thought surely I would never come out of.
Sara’s husband said he wanted to make it work. He stuck around for a while and pretended that he had ended the affair with the other woman. He had not. He lied to Sara all along the near 2-year period since everything was discovered. And after finding out that he was still in a relationship with the other woman, Sara filed for divorce on May 5, 2011. Sara’s story is most definitely heartbreaking. And that’s putting it mildly. She is now recently divorced. I hate even writing that. For her sake. I hate that her ex-husband was deceived and still lives in deception. But I love that Sara is now free to let God redeem her pain. She is free to grow in her walk with Christ. She is free to see God use her story in the lives of others.  Sara is fiercely devoted to her Savior even in the midst of the most unspeakable pain. I’m proud to know Sara. I’d ask that you offer her some encouragement and hope in the comments below. And pray for her. God knows that even though her marriage has ended, her pain, in some ways, is just beginning.

18 thoughts on “It’s My Story: Sara

  1. My prayers go out to Sara. I cannot imagine the depth of hurt a betrayal like this causes. I can only pray that the perfect love of God restores , heals & covers Sara. The good and the bad somehow work out for our good (Rom 8:28). Hold on to that promise!

  2. I love the reminder, and continually go back to it myself, of the story of Joseph especially Genesis 50 where he says to his brothers, “You intended to harm me, but God intended it all for good.” I cannot even imagine your pain. Our stories are similar but ended very differently. I know this though. Regardless of where our stories take us, restoration is possible for all. Restoration doesn’t come in the package we expect it to sometimes. It doesn’t necessarily mean a healed marriage. But it can mean a healed heart. God can take all the broken pieces and put them back together more beautifully than they were before.

  3. Sara, May you realize how precious you truly are! May God speak so gently to your heart that you cannot help but to respond. May our Creator who has deemed you amazing reveal His unending love to you. I understand that divorce is an end. Yet, I have experienced that God is about Restoration. Restoration of our soul. I KNOW He is faithful and trustworthy. As you continue in your journey may your experience with Him be the most powerful encounter that changes your life and moves you forward. Praying for all this and so much more.

  4. Sara, I wept this morning as I read your story. Honestly, I felt a little dazed because our stories are so incredibly alike that you could almost take out your name and insert mine. I am and have been walking the same path as you for these last two years. Doctors had told my husband that he would never be able to have children, but somehow he conceived a baby with another woman after just a few months together. The move, your husband’s response, the timetable of your story, your recent divorce…I have been there with you. I am so deeply saddened for what you have been through. It is a pain so deep I’d hope noone would have been on this path I have walked. But I hope that it gives you some small comfort to know that even though we have never met, someone has been walking on this path right by your side and understands. We know that Jesus is with us every step. Sometimes we feel so alone and it’s hard to see Him there with us. Yet He is and promises to never leave us. And I know Jesus, in His own tender way, introduced you to me this morning, as if He has turned to me on the journey and said, “Someone else has been walking with us these past two years. Let me introduce you. Her name is Sara.” I will remember you, Sara, and bring you to His feet as I do and trust that we will both see His goodness.

  5. So very sorry for all your pain. Even though that pain feels like forever in your heart, like Cindy said God will use it to help others, He uses our testimony’s more then we ever know. This is my favorite verse
    ” Yet those who wait for the Lord will gain new strength, They will mount up wings as eagles, They will run and not get tired,
    They will walk and not become weary.
    Praying for you 🙂 Isaiah 40:31

  6. Love you my sweet friend…. the best is yet to come…. he takes our broken pieces and brings something stronger…. more beautiful….. something that brings Himself glory from our brokeness….

  7. Sara,
    I hate the power of deception to rip lives apart and I love that our great God is a God with beautiful redemptive purposes. I don’t know you but I will be praying for you. A dear sister in the LORD has been married for over 40 years and her Christian husband has deserted her for someone else – she is the best wife I know but her husband has been totally blinded. I have wept so much for her but continue to pray, knowing God will be glorified.
    Grace and peace,

  8. Thank you everyone for your kind words. I am truly humbled. Your prayers are MUCH appreciated as I navigate this new journey. It is so very bittersweet. But I am certain that my story will not be told in vain and that God will use it for His ultimate glory. Much love to all.

  9. My precious daughter, you are truly amazing. I thank my God for such a precious gift. As I have read every response I cry and bow in humility to our Awesome God who has provided you with His love and compassion through His written Word, friends and family. I thank Him for each and everyone that has prayed with you and counselled with you through the greatest hurt to a wife. God is faithful and even when there seemed to be no way to go on, you found your happiness with the Lord. You found your joy in God, who saves. “Hab. 3:17-18; Love you.

  10. Sara, thank you for sharing your story with us. As the truth is brought in the light God is able to work. We are able to pray…and I will be praying for you. My heart goes out to you.

  11. Dear Sara,
    Don’t lose hope and keep crying out to Jesus. Even when God does not feel close because of the weight of despair you feel, He is. In my own story, I prayed and prayed that God would give me a Scripture just for me, that I could open my Bible and just lay my eyes and his words for me. This is what He gave me, I was overwhelmed. Song of Songs 2:10-13. It was the first page I opened to and the very first verse my eyes looked at. It is for you, too, dear sister.

  12. Sara, I cannot tell you how my heart aches as I read your story. I so know very-similar pain, precious one. I just want to reach to you and “hug” you, and tell you, you are not alone, so many of us are heartbroken in very-similar ways…Satan loves making us feel that “you’re the only one anything so humiliating has happened to”, and “you can’t talk about this to people, they won’t understand”. I’m so grateful to God for women like you who bravely stand up and tell your story, therefore proving Satan is —AS ALWAYS–a liar.

  13. Sara my prayers are with you for continued strength and we know that strength comes from God. John 10:10. We know that Jesus has come that you may have life and have it more abundantly. It may hurt now but abundant life is yours. Continue to wait on the Lord and he will renew your strength see yourself mounted up with wings as eagles, soaring above or through any storm. Continue to run and you won’t get weary on this walk you shall not faint. Isaiah 40:31. Sometime where God is leading us everybody is not meant to go. Your future is soooo bright.

  14. Sara, my heart aches for you because I know what you are going through. My husband has cheated caught a disease that he can not get rid of and cheated again in the mist of us working on our marriage 2010. While going through this divorce (now) God has been blessing me and He will bless you also. He is your strength in your time of weakness. Do not beat yourself up, just walk in the new season God has for you and live the good life that He has planned for you. Will keep you in prayer. God Bless.

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