She’s in the throws of pain right now. I know this because she emailed me a couple of weeks ago and asked:
How long will it take to feel that my husband really loves me?
Doesn’t that just break your heart?
Brandy just found out less than three weeks ago that her husband has been unfaithful to her. She said in her email to me that they spent the weekend crying and talking and (her) shouting and then crying and talking some more. Listen as she shares what God spoke to her:
I spent about three hours praying and crying and praying and reading my Bible and talking to God. He reminded me of all He has forgiven me for. He reminded me that He has been with me this whole time. He reminded me that His love is not just for me but also for my husband. I got home that night and I told my husband that I forgive him, and I want to move forward. My husband says he is willing, wants to move forward, and says that he did not ever want to leave me for the other girl.
I love how God speaks so clearly to our hearts. Brandy is blessed because she truly gets forgiveness. Forgiveness is so much more about ourselves and our response to God. When we truly understand all that God has forgiven us of, we will then willingly forgive those who’ve hurt us. It takes time for the pain to go away, yes, but we can push through it and make the choice to forgive.
So, how are they doing a couple of weeks later? Here’s an update:
My husband has agreed to do the iMarriage study with me and he has agreed to go to church with me. At this time I don’t know if he is going to church for me or for God. I’m praying God’s word will start to be planted inside him though.
Brandy and her husband need your prayers like crazy. Things are still touch and go. Even though she has chosen to forgive her husband, the pain is still there. Contrary to popular opinion, just because we remember the pain doesn’t mean that we haven’t forgiven. Pain is pain and it just hurts.
I know Brandy would appreciate your encouragement as they embark on a journey of healing. And if you’d like to connect with her, please let me know in the comments below.