It’s My Story: Gina*

This is not the outcome she ever desired. Let alone what she ever imagined would happened. But it did. Gina and her husband have been married over five years and have a young son together. Things got rough this past winter and they separated. In a counseling session a few weeks later, Gina learned that her husband was unfaithful to her. Even though he stayed gone and remained in the other woman’s arms for several months, Gina held on to hope that God could indeed restore their marriage. A couple of months ago, her prodigal husband returned home and said he wanted to work it out. But within a few weeks, he could no longer keep that commitment. He filed for divorce on September 28, 2011. Gina shared this with me:
I am praying he wakes up and repents over his sin. This all feels like a bad dream, a dream I did not sign up for.
Gina has asked for us to pray for the restoration of her marriage. Even in the midst of this awful storm, she has not lost hope in her Lord. I know many of you reading this story have been in her shoes. You’ve endured betrayal in your own marriage, whether by infidelity or something else, and you have waited for your spouse to return to you. You may still be waiting. I know Gina would appreciate your Biblical encouragement in the comments below. And if you feel so led to connect with her via email, let me know in the comments. *Name has been changed to protect her identity.        

13 thoughts on “It’s My Story: Gina*

  1. Gina, thank you for sharing your story. I will be lifting you, your son, and your husband up in prayer. There are few words I have to share but here is a scripture. I’m so glad you know Jesus as your Savior.
    Jesus, Lover of our Souls
    II Corinthians 1:3-4
    “Praise be to the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ, the Father of compassion and the God of all comfort, 4 who comforts us in all our troubles, so that we can comfort those in any trouble with the comfort we ourselves receive from God.”

  2. Psalms 40:1-3

    Psalm 40

    1 I waited patiently for Jehovah; And he inclined unto me, and heard my cry.
    2 He brought me up also out of a horrible pit, out of the miry clay; And he set my feet upon a rock, and established my goings.
    3 And he hath put a new song in my mouth, even praise unto our God: Many shall see it, and fear, And shall trust in Jehovah.

    I’ll be praying for you and your family, Gina. My heart breaks for you. My husband is still at home but there is someone else. I’m waiting upon the Lord for He is my only hope in this.

  3. Hi Gina,

    I know what you are going through. I too will also be praying for you. I would like to leave this word with you from the Lord. Proverb 3:5-6 Trust in the LORD with all your heart, and lean not on your own understanding; In all your ways ways acknowledge Him and He shall direct your paths.

    God Bless You. If God brought you too it, He will take you through it. Trust Him.

  4. Gina, it’s taken me a long year to come to the place where I can rest in the Lord. Lean into Him in your pain, He understands. Trust Him, for He alone is completely trustworthy. He will never leave you or forsake you. He will never stop loving you. Refuse to listen to Satan’s whisperings and lies that will break your heart.

    2 Corinthians 10:5
    Casting down imaginations, and every high thing that is exalted against the knowledge of God, and bringing every thought into captivity to the obedience of Christ;

    Read your Bible and pray. Draw close to the Lord and rest in Him. God bless.

  5. Gina,
    It saddens me that you are in this situation. We never “sign up” for this and infidelity and broken promises will always cause heartache. I’m praying that you will know how BIG God is and how very much He loves you. I’m praying that He becomes real to you in just the way that you need it. He is Present for you and your son and your husband. It is not about the result as much as it is about Knowing God in the midst of every moment. He is promising you His Love!

  6. Thank you for sharing your story I know many are in the same situation as you waiting.
    ” Come to me, all who are weary and heavy laden,
    And i will give you rest. Take my yoke upon you and learn from me. For I am gentle and humble in heart.
    For you will find rest for your souls. For my yoke is easy and my burden is light.

    Matthew 11:28-30
    Even though its hard to understand right now God will use your story to help others and encourage. I am praying your husband sees the light and comes home where he belongs.

  7. “Gina”, you have great courage. I will pray for your marriage because I hate seeing Satan get any victories and I believe we can all have victory in Christ. I will pray for strength and faith for you and for protection for your little guy. Don’t ever let go of your God’s hand, He won’t fail you, ever.

  8. “And the Holy Spirit helps us in our weakness. For example, we don’t know what God wants us to pray for. But the Holy Spirit prays for us with groanings that cannot be expressed in words. And the Father who knows all hearts knows what the Spirit is saying, for the Spirit pleads for us believers in harmony with God’s own will. And we know that God causes EVERYTHING to work together for the good of those who love God and are called according to his purpose for them.” Romans 8:26-28 (NLT) And to quote Gretchen’s comment above me: Don’t ever let go of your God’s hand, He won’t fail you, ever.

  9. I can understand your pain because my situation is very similar. After 19 years of marriage, my husband has been unfaithful with several women. Like you, I still pray for restoration. Here are some verses that God has used in the past week to encourage me.
    Prov. 19:21 Many are the plans in a person’s heart, but it is the LORD’s purpose that prevails.
    Jer 29:11 For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the LORD, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.
    Psalm 27:14 Wait for the LORD; be strong and take heart and wait for the LORD.
    Christ is our only hope. May we find our identity in Him alone.

  10. May God hold your precious heart as you walk this road, Gina.

    “In all my prayers for all of you, I always pray with joy because of your partnership in the gospel from the first day until now, being confident of this, that he who began a good work in you will carry it on to completion until the day of Christ Jesus.” – Philippians 1:4-6

    No matter what happens to your marriage, God has begun a good work in you as an individual that He will be faithful to complete. His promise is good.

  11. Oh, sweet, Gina. I pray that God holds you close as you continue to trust in Him. As Nikki B. wrote, God will be faithful to complete the work He has begun in YOU. I pray your love story with Him is everything your heart longs for.

  12. Romans 8:28

    I have been where you are and it is great that you have a relationship with God. When I first found about my husband’s infidelity I was not saved and it was a long hard road. After I accepted Christ I was able to forgive my ex husband and move on to live the wonderful life that God planned for me. I am happie now than I have ever been in my life. We can only see up to the corner, but God sees and knows what is waiting for us around th corner. I will be in prayer for you and your family.

  13. Your story is very touching Gina and it gives me hope that I am possibly doing the right thing by waiting as well…My husband was also unfaithful and I came back to him when he asked for forgiveness…but it continued, he lied about meeting up with young girls and chatting to other women and his pornography addiction. I still forgave..Until he decided ti leave…it has been 6 months since he’s left and we have a young daughter and now a small baby.

    I am still hoping he will come back and I trust God to turn all situations around.

    However, there are tough days when I feel extremely angry of the betrayal and I wonder if he will ever be honest again or ever come back. I feel I should cut my losses and move on..hoping that I will find the “right” man who will treat me the right way..

    I am not sure what to I will continue to wait upon the Lord..

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