According to Ecclesiastes, Chapter 3, there is a time for every activity under Heaven. A time to be born, to die, to plant, to harvest, to kill, to heal, to tear down, to build up, to cry, to laugh, to grieve, to dance, to scatter stones, to gather stones, to embrace, to turn away, to search, to quit searching, to keep, to throw away, to tear, to mend, to be quiet, to speak, to love, to hate, for war and for peace.
So, when do you know?
When do you know when it’s time to walk away from a relationship that has yielded nothing healthy or stay and fight til the death? When do you know when it’s time to keep things that seem to have no use or hold onto them for a rainy day? When do you know if you should be saying something wise to someone or let them figure it out on their own? I mean, after all, experience is a great teacher, right?
I don’t have a simple answer for you. I’ve seen all of these things come to pass in my own life. Even though, if I’m being honest, I don’t really know what scattering and gathering stones are. Don’t judge.
But I would like to offer you a suggestion as to how you might know when the time is for each of these seasons.
John 15:5 says, “Yes, I am the vine; you are the branches. Those who remain in me, and I in them, will produce much fruit. For apart from me you can do nothing.”
And there’s your answer.
We must stay connected to Christ, our Vine. Every day. Not just during our one-hour service at church on the weekend. Not just during our mealtime prayer every night. It has to be throughout the day. Continually being in His presence. Drawing strength from him because we are weak. Reading the Bible daily because they are His very words. Listening to podcasts from trusted, Godly pastors and speakers. Monitoring our outside influences. Feeding our spirits so that our flesh will starve.
I don’t always get this right. Nor will you. But, I do desire it and strive for it. And the best thing about it is God knows our heart and knows our desire. I believe He honors that.
Here’s what I’ve seen in my own life: When I spend time in God’s Word, I know Him. And because I know Him, I know His voice. And because I know His voice, I know when He speaks to my heart. And that’s when I know how to gauge the “times” in my own life.
Praying this helps you.